Heartbreak

Heartbreak.

It happens to everyone, unless you're one of those lucky ones who meet your first love, the feelings are mutual and feel like butterflies everyday, and you live happily ever after. But in reality, that is rare. As much as that sucks, it's true.

No one can prepare you for how little or how much a heartbreak can affect you. Whether it's your first heartbreak or your *fill in blank number* heartbreak. It still sucks. Whether the break up was mutual, whether the feelings just seemed to disappear, whether you or the other person cheated, or whether you thought everything was going okay but it wasn't. Heartbreak is something that happens to everyone, everywhere all around the world.

Us, as humans, get used to a routine. Waking up next to that person, waking up to that "good morning" text, cuddling that person everyday, kissing those lips you are used to, telling that person what your day was like, feeling that sense of comfort when they talk, laugh, or just their presence, or how they are the only person you want to spend every second of the day with. Even the bad things felt right. Arguing about where to eat, about who left a mess, wondering who they are texting, just silly little disagreements. But knowing getting through those small things, could help you when something big happens.

That feeling we just can't explain, that feeling of actually feeling worth it. Gone. Gone in one conversation. Gone. Those days spent together laughing, talking, and loving each other gone. Gone, but not forgotten. Those moments are now memories. Memories you continue to replay and replay, seeing what went wrong. Replaying conversations are seeing if you can catch those red flags. Overanalyzing and overthinking about every small detail, the good and the bad, spending hours trying to figure out what happened.

After, you try to continue living. You wake up everyday, some days are good, some are bad, but you still get up. Some days you look better than others. Some days you barely think about them and some days they are all you can think about. Some days you feel happy and laugh, some days you don't want talk and just cry. But, we continue to get up and live.

We have a small hope inside of us of the possibility that maybe you will get back together. The small hope that maybe the timing wasn't right and you meet in a coffee shop or whatever, and that spark is still there and you guys catch up. The small hope that they miss you and that they regret it. The "what ifs."

Whether or not those "what ifs" happen, you have to move on. You have to learn to love yourself, know your own worth. Know that you are someone's dream girl/boy. Know that in the end the ones who want to stay in your life, will make an effort. Know that you are best you can be and anyone should be happy to be with you.

I get at the moment that sounds hard or possibly impossible. Especially when you smell their fragrance or think you hear their voice. Or holding onto that hope that they will talk to you. Hell, I'm still trying to figure out how to make that easier. But time helps, as cliché as that it, it helps. "Time heals all wounds." Whether at the moment you don't realize it, you will eventually. You will look back and see how much of a person you have grown for the better. You will realize that you put your heart into that relationship but in the end it wasn't enough for the other person and that the universe had a better plan for you.

A quote from one of my favorite shows, How I Met Your Mother, "If you have chemistry, you only need other thing: timing." Wise words from Robin Scherbatsky and if that isn't the truth. This show has shown me, and I'm sure other people, that you can't force things to happen, but if they happen they happen, and if they don't there are other and better things. Maybe one day you will find your Marshall to your Lily, or that you have to go through your Stella or Victoria but find out you are meant to be with your Robin.

Yes, sometimes you are going to look back on those moments you two were together, you are going to think about how they are, you are going to wish you could talk to them, and that's okay. It's okay to still think about them, to still feel some sadness or anger towards them because of Heartbreak. It happens, but it heals, it heals fast or it heals slow. But eventually, whether in a few weeks or months or maybe even a year, it heals.

But we, as humans, grow. We learn from past, we love and we hate, but most importantly we grow. From all of our experiences, small or big, we grow.

So, when you feel like you are falling apart and you can't imagine those pieces being put back together. Eventually they will find their way back to each other. I can say that is the one most important things from heartbreaks, is that we can always find yourself in the end. So, it's okay to want that other person to be happy, as long as your happy too. Your well-being is so important not to lose.

In the end, heartbreak can be a bitch, it can feel like the end of the world. Eventually we will find "the one" but first we have to go through all the "at the moment" kind of loves. Because it isn't the end of world after a heartbreak, we grow and we thrive through the good and the bad. Most importantly we

Live and Love.

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