Heartbreak Is Devastating. True Love Is Liberating

Dating is this weird experiment nearly all humans experience at some point in their lives in hopes of finding a compatible partner. Despite literally everyone having some form of dating experience, nearly half of all marriages end, which leads to the inevitable question: Why are so many incompatible people blinded by love? Unfortunately, attempting to understand the rationale of the human brain in love remains one of the most intriguing questions we may never know.

As someone who has witnessed earth-shattering love that can stand the test of time and heartbreaks that mirror volcanic eruptions, I've compiled a list of attributes and actions that every couple who has found love and maintained that love have in common.

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Mutual admiration and respect!

Before I found the man of my dreams/love of my life, I considered myself fairly lucky. I understood what I wanted (or what I thought I wanted) and I had a "nice" boyfriend who really liked me. I confused men being nice to me as men truly respecting me.

It wasn't until Ben that I realized the kind of respect and admiration that exist in all successful relationships (i.e. relationships that don't end) is the kind you feel unequivocally in everything your partner does. You respect their drive. You admire the way they are always at ease during difficult situations. You respect their morals. Disappointing them is way worse than disappointing your parents, grandparents, mentor, or boss because ultimately, their respect is the only respect that validates morals and values. The way he looks at me when I tell him about the things I am passionate about reassures me in everything I am saying. The way he congratulates me for everyday small victories lets me know he respects me, my time, and my effort.

You both feel as if you're the 'winner...'

Meaning you both firmly acknowledge and believe you are fortunate to have found that someone who is better than you in the areas of life you consider important. That person who motivates you to be your best self. The person who is your moral compass and guiding post through life's storms. Neither of you have ever deep down inside questioned if you could do better or be in a better relationship because you know you can't because you are fully aware YOU HAVE THE BEST ALREADY!!!

No Secrets and Complete Trust

A couple in love is a couple not worried. Not worried about him or her going to the bar with their friends without you. Not worried about spending a month apart. Not worried their partner will change their mind and bolt. They are not worried because the have one of the greatest gifts on this earth you can have....SOMEONE'S TRUST! There is no hesitation or doubt. If hesitation and doubt creep in, ALERT, your subconscious may be trying to tell you something.

And finally.....

If you've ever had your heart broken, you know it's the most draining, soul-shattering, confusing lonely times of someone's life. And if you're fortunate enough to find your one true love, you know they are completely incapable of breaking your heart because, no matter how corny this may be...you know your life is UNBREAKABLE. And that is when you realize just how liberating True Love is.

xx, L