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I cracked how all online dating apps work

By Stephanie DolcePublished 5 years ago 3 min read
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I am researching for my follow up book to my best seller, “ Hello Love, Where's Cupid? 2nd ed”—I now figured out the “secret” to how Tinder, Okcupid, and eHarmony (among others) operate—it’s all through a 10 factor algorithm. They do use some computer/human combos to detect misbehavior, but mostly it’s all based on artificial intelligence. There is no scientific method like eHarmony wants you to believe—by the way. I won't reveal the exact 10 factors, I will tell you that it works in a similar way that Netflix does. But one key factor is all about how well you honestly answer their questions that gets you matched with users of the site. So for all those folks who “fib” on answering those questions... you are in charge of your own fate (some what).

Thing is, online dating is the most unnatural way to meet people. We need to connect. We need attraction. Words written online are just that, words. Anyone can promise you a rose garden online, and never be held to having them be truth. Online dating, particularly, is such an exhausting, disappointing, and jaded experience. according to data from the Pew Research Center, one third of people who have used online dating have never actually gone on a date with someone they met. And just five percent of Americans who are in a marriage or committed relationship say they met their partner online, despite the wealth of apps available, suggesting perhaps that the majority of dates happen organically offline; not through the use of a dating app or site!

We use Yelp to check which restaurant to go to. Pick movies using another app. We are so anxious to control the outcomes that we are unable to take any real risks. We don't see Andrew or Andrea as people on dating sites, we see Andrew or Andrea as the 70 percent perfect match. We don't see them as people, we see them as objects.

Traditional dating is quite simple; it is going out to a social event, (bar, community gathering, library, coffee shop, sporting event, etc,) and meeting people. While you are out, your eye catches someone who tickles your fancy, and you make your way over there to start a conversation. While conversing, you decide to give this person your phone number. You both start talking, and then one day decide to go out on a date. That is what traditional dating is all about. Make no mistake, meeting people offline is better than meeting them online.

Traditional dating allows you to learn about your partner slowly over time, preserving an element of mystery, and making future discoveries more meaningful. You don't have to physically meet the individual until you are completely comfortable and secure in your interactions, which can go on for months or even years. All that time you "try," and get to know someone online, you could actually physically be getting to know someone you met in person.

There is also a ton of new research on stuff such as folks who use certain dating sites have developed eating disorders, abuse drugs, and are often seen as less trustworthy than folks who never use dating sites. Other topics in my follow up book, will also include, but are not limited too; open relationships, how social media impacts our relationships, the type of car that you should have in your profile to attract partners, The most dangerous states when it comes to online dating, the safest states, security flaws within all these dating apps, and I will also answer the question, “Is the golden age of online dating over?”

The book, still nameless, is expected to be released in 2020, but you can stay ahead of the curve by reading this blog, and following me on social media.

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Stephanie Dolce

♥ I’m a creative CEO ♥ cheer coach/choreography ♥ I write books, blogs, and create content ♥ #blogger #influencer #sassybrand

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