Horrible First Date

I'm like a good majority of this current generation by trying a dating app like Tinder or POF (Plenty of Fish, if you don't know what that means), and not all of guys I met on them were horrible, but there was one on POF that was the worst I've ever encountered. A few of the reasons why I decided to try a dating app are because I'm usually busy with work, I tend to be very shy, meeting new people does make me nervous sometimes, and it seemed like the easiest and best option for me.

I met a guy on POF. We'll call him Matt for the sake of the story. So he messaged me first and he seemed nice enough out of some of the guys who messaged me. The only odd thing for me that I noticed was he liked to message multiple times if I didn't respond. It wasn't too bad. Sometimes I'd get side-tracked, distracted, or I would forget to message back, so it wasn't horrible.

After a couple weeks of talking, we decided to meet up. He was going to drive down to visit since he lived about an hour away and we were going to watch a movie and go out for dinner. The movie was going to be my treat and we were going to split the bill for dinner. The day before he was going to come down should have been my first sign he was a little odd. I mentioned he was the type to send multiple messages; in the span of about three hours, he asked me eight or nine different times if we were still on for our date. I had already told him we were earlier in the day, but I overlooked it and thought he deserved a chance.

The next day—date day—he called me at the crack of dawn to tell me how excited he was. As much as I enjoyed being woken up early, I wanted to get a few more hours of sleep so I would be well-rested for the day. I explained that to him, he understood, and we got off the phone. I woke a few hours later. He planned to leave his town in an hour to head to my town, and again, he called to tell me how excited he wass. His phone calls and texts about how excited he was for the date made me feel nervous and second guessing if I wanted to even go, but I decided to, anyway.

I met him at the mall in my town when he told me he got there. It took a little to find me since he went looking at some of the stores, and we headed to the theater together. We decided on a movie, got some snacks since neither of us ate lunch, and the movie we chose was crowded despite it being a weekday.

During the movie, he kept trying to touch me, and I don't mean putting his arm over my shoulder or holding my hand. His hand would rest on my leg—no big deal—then his hand would wander up my leg and I would get uncomfortable and push it off. He would stop for a bit, put his hand back on my leg, then, after some time, he would do the same thing. Eventually, when I had enough, I told him to keep his hands to himself and to stop touching me. I heard him call me a "bitch" under his breath, but he nodded and he did as I asked. When the movie ended, we left and headed to his car to go out for dinner, and a huge part of me was screaming to not get in his car with him.

Luck was on my side, because I got a phone call from my mother saying I needed to meet at my parents' house because we needed to go to a family friend's home because someone passed away. I looked at Matt after I got off the phone and explained the situation to him. Now the nice Matt I first met turned into a complete and total jerk. He started calling me names because I led him on, I made a promise with my body for him to "have his way with" (no idea what he was talking about), and a whole bunch of other nonsense. He even said at one point that I was lying about someone passing away so I could get out of screwing him. Another couple who saw the same movie as me saw that Matt had me cornered against his vehicle and trying to force me in and came to my rescue, thankfully. They got me out of the situation, dropped me off to my car, and made sure I was safely inside before they left. I deleted Matt's number after that, blocked his profile, and have cut off any ways he might be able to communicate with me.

I was lucky to get out of such a scary and potentially dangerous situation. Anyone else that decides to try those dating apps, I express being cautious when it comes to meeting up together.