How to Avoid Bad Relationships

In today's society, it is hard to find someone the good old fashioned way. You no longer walk into a bar with your friends and guys walk up to you offering you a drink. Now, your head is in your phone, and you find it next to impossible to find someone to be with. Nowadays it seems like the best way to meet your soulmate is either online or through work. Many people though do not feel comfortable to find someone at work because it might cause drama in the office and no one wants that primarily if you are in your twenties or thirties. So, you choose to go online, and that is perfectly fine. However, you need to identify how to spot the right person online. I decided to put a list together of whom to avoid for men and women.

For Women

You decided to go on a date with a man with one photo online. You have been talking online and decided to meet up. When he writes to you notice his language and how he writes and what words he uses. Does he use the letter u instead of you? Does he say stuff like "hey, babe?"

Moreover, "what's up, gurl?" Then, stop talking to him right away. The grammar tells you, that this the kind of guy that only wants sex and never call you back. However, ladies you want a man to marry, so as Ariana Grande says: "thank you, next, please."

Okay, scenario two: the guy uses proper punctuation, complete sentences, and the first thing he said he mentioned something from your online profile. You decide to meet up, and he is not what you expected, this should be a warning sign, but that does not mean you need to back off immediately. You decide to give this a chance. The hostess of the restaurant asks you where you want to sit? He answers almost immediately: the lounge. Notice how he did not take a second to ask where you would prefer to sit? Well, you decide to let this one slide and then when the hostess leads you he goes first. Ahem, ladies first is still a thing. You sit down the hostess gives you the menus, and you look up at him, and he looks up at you. He already knows what he wants, and he puts his menu away, and since you are a woman you like to weigh your options, and in the end, you choose the cheapest thing on the menu, which happens to be a soup or a salad. He orders and when you give your order he is quick to judge and says "really a salad" this is where the date should end. He does not understand common courtesy. If he does not understand something as simple as that, then imagine how he would treat you in your relationship.

Scenario three: he is wearing baggy jeans, he looks sloppy with his hair all over the place, this dude is wearing a shirt with a stain on it, he looks like a rapper from the '80s with a bad sense of fashion. Nope, don't even. Turn around walk away. If he does not give you effort, he does not deserve you.

Now, you need your friend opinion on this guy and if they disapprove there is a reason, which you lack to see. So, do not be mopey about it and say that they don't understand because I bet your friends have dated guys which you hated and they ignored you and then your friend got burned in the end. So, end it's not meant to be.

If he is a constant liar, end it. He lied to you chances are he is seeing someone behind your back as well, and then that leads to questions like how much do I know this person? Moreover, you don't want to spend your life second guessing everything.

Boys do not understand the word "no" and men do. If a guy is hitting on you and you say "I'm not interested" and he keeps going after you, then move to a different place go to another bar. No means no and if he asks you why then he does not respect your decision. You don't need to explain as to why you feel uncomfortable doing something that he does that bothers you. Like spitting on the sidewalk and you ask him nicely "please don't do that in front of me" then he asks you why. There's a big red flag. It's gross man, it's a huge turn-off, it's revolting, makes me want to throw up, and it makes the man look like a super jerk.

If he sends you a picture...not of his face...Yup. Done. Goodbye.

For Men

I hate to do this to you, women, but it is partially true. Fake nails that is the first warning sign that a girl is high maintenance and I do not think men want a girl that is high maintenance because it is too much work for men. You do not want a woman who complains about being broke, but then wants money for a manicure. Those things are expensive! It's almost 80 dollars or more.

Women that expect you to pay all the time. This probably means she is using you. If she offers to pay then it says she thinks about others before herself, this makes her selfless, and that's what men want.

Outrageous reactions to small things. Now, women can be over emotional and have responses that can be scary. However, if women are hungry, we will bite your head and feed it to the wolves. For example, if you do not open the door for her and she screams at you for doing so, then get out of there. You don't need a woman yelling at you for not opening the door. She is perfectly capable of opening it herself. However, it would help if you were opening doors for her anyway. If she gently reminds you to hold the door open for you, then accept it.

The girl of your dreams is finally free from that heavy five-year relationship. Please do not go for it. You do not want to be the rebound guy. Let her take your time to heal and maybe in a few months or when she tells you she is going on a date, start planning to make your move.

End goal. Your end goal is different. You want kids, and she doesn't well, that is a hint of how that relationship is going to end. It will end, and it will not be easy to move on to the next person. On a first date ask how many kids they want and what their plans are and if you have the same end goals then perfect.