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A heartbreak is an experience that no one can describe the same way but most people go through it in their life. There's at least a million books, songs, and movies based around it. We as a planet know a thing or two about losing love. Now, I want to try to help you through your time of need when all you want to do is spent your days crying and eating chocolate.
Get out of your house.
For the first couple of days, you're not going to want to leave the house. And that's fine. You probably haven't showered anyway, am I right? But once you got the heavy crying out of your system, get out. Go somewhere fun. The gym, the mall, a bar, your best friend's house; location doesn't really matter. You need to see the world again, it's beautiful. All that crying made you forget. Perspective is everything.
Get yourself a batch of new tunes.
You don't want to be listening to all the same songs you and your ex listened to together. All the memories, happy and/or sad will likely crush you. New music will give you the chance to open up your emotions and vent. Let it all out. Whether you choose angry, loud music, happy, sassy music, or sad, melancholy music, you'll definitely be feeling something. And that's good!
Try something new.
The great thing about relationships is that you get to learn. May it be an important life lesson or some sort of personal lesson about who you are. So, take that and cherish it. Then go out of your comfort zone and try something new. Learn a language. Build a fence. Cook a new recipe you've always wanted to try. Growth is what life is about. You grow as a person and life keeps on keepin' on.
Give it some time.
It's hard. Getting over someone is an incredibly hard task. It doesn't happen over night. (If it does, then you weren't into them anyway.) Don't get discouraged if in a month's time, you still feel the need to call their voicemail to hear their voice, just one last time. Spoiler alert: it won't help much. If you want progress, you have to continue moving forward.
Cut off all contact with your ex.
If you haven't by this point, it's important to do so. Unfollow them on Twitter and Instagram. Unfriend them on Facebook. Delete their number from your phone. Whatever it takes to keep the lines of communication blocked. If you're still talking to your ex or scrolling their Facebook page, you're not doing yourself any favors. Continuing to check up on their day to day life is just hurting you more. You've had enough hurt. Give your heart a rest.
Start talking to people again.
Even if you're not ready to date again, that's okay. Make a new friend. Friends are awesome. Having someone on your side in this crazy, beautiful, whacky world can only help you. Reach out to somebody new. They might surprise you. Having new things in your life will be beneficial for you, it will expand your horizons.
Do something nice for yourself.
You're probably lonely. Things aren't going your way. It rained and your brakes went out and your favorite show got canceled. It's time to do something nice for yourself. Get a scoop of ice cream and get sprinkles. Have your hair in that style you always wanted but thought you couldn't pull off. Go see a movie. You deserve good things. Don't wait for other people to bring you flowers when you can plant your own.
Don't be afraid to do things by yourself.
Who says you can't book a vacation just for you? Travelling alone is an amazing experience. Eat alone at a restaurant. You don't have to worry about making boring small talk. See a movie by yourself, you can pick whatever you want! We live in a society that thinks being alone is a bad thing. In truth, doing things alone can help you become stronger as a person. When it comes down to it, you don't need anyone but you.