How to Find the Perfect Partner for You

You're not actively looking for someone, but you want to be ready for when that special person comes into your life. Yet there's one thing that keeps on bugging you. "How on Earth will I know if they're the right one?" Now, there are so many possible answers to this question. From zodiac signs to numerology, the ways to find that partner are endless. Well, I'm going to provide a methodical answer rather than wishful way of finding "The One."

It starts with you.

The first step to finding a partner actually has nothing to do with them. It has everything to do with you. Are you mentally and emotionally ready for the ups and downs of a relationship? Are you at a point where you can provide value to the other person? Are you looking for a partner because you're lonely? These are some of the questions that you have to ask yourself. Be brutally honest with yourself, a relationship should benefit both people involved. You're probably never going to be "ready;" however, that doesn't mean that you should jump into a relationship straight away. Take some time and improve yourself.

Goals and Dreams

I'm sure you have big dreams and aspirations, right? Well, so does everyone else. Our dreams can mean we have to sacrifice a lot, so with that being said, it's important to talk it out and find out about each other's dreams.

When you speak about your ambitions and how you plan to make them a reality with the other person, you'll probably come across some problems. Maybe your dreams will mean moving to a different country, how will they be able to deal with this and is this a dealbreaker for them? Ultimately, you have to let each other in, talk about the future, and where you see yourself. Doing this is the only way you'll find out if your dreams will prevent you from having a good relationship.

Talking about your plans for the future also shows if you're like-minded or not. Maybe you're extremely optimistic and they're very pessimistic—well, now you know you're probably not a great match. Finding that special someone means letting people in and being open about your life.

Love Languages

Okay, so if you don't have a clue what the five love languages are, I would highly suggest you buy the book, or at least take the test.

Knowing your love languages and the other person's love languages can really help you decide if you're a good match for each other. If you know how to fulfill the other person's love languages then you're in a good place. If it's not in your nature to constantly give words of affirmations (for example), then it's probably not a good idea to try and get in a relationship with someone who has words of affirmation as their love language.

While you shouldn't base who you have a relationship with only based on the five love languages model, it's a good estimator of long-term relationship success. If you can't cater to a specific love language, then it's best to avoid someone who has that love language.

Character

When you come across someone you take a liking to, you must consider their character. It's all well and good thinking positively short-term, but you have to consider the struggles you'll face in the future as a pair. Will they be able to handle tough situations? How will they conduct themselves? Will they work through the tough times or just give up? These are some of the questions that you have to know about the other person before you make that step of commitment. Admittedly, it's hard to figure all these out when you're not in a relationship with the person, but there are definitely ways you can get these answers without committing to a relationship.

There are a lot of parts that make up someone's character such as temperament, commitment, belief, and mindset. All of these things don't require you to test them by getting in a relationship with the person, but it will demand that you spend quality time getting to know them.

Dealbreakers

I'm sure everyone has their pet peeves, but they're something you can get over (even if they drive you insane). However, there are some things which we all know we can't tolerate. You have to figure out if the person does things that you consider "dealbreakers." If they do, then it's game over; if they don't, then there's some hope of a future. It's really simple and clear when it comes to dealbreakers.