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How to Get Over Someone After a Breakup

5 Easy Tips on Getting Over Someone

Ladies, getting over someone may be hard at first. But it is possible. When you break up with someone, the first thing you always think about is what may have happened for it to come to that point. Then you start thinking about all the happy moments that were shared. Lastly, you think of everything that wasn’t so great. Maybe that person cheated. Maybe you cheated. Maybe neither one of you know exactly the reason for the breakup, but it was something needed to be done. If you both know that the relationship can’t be fixed and you won’t be getting back together at all, here are some helpful tips that may help get your mind off of things.

  1. Get rid of everything that reminds you of that person. You can either ask that person if they want everything back or, if they don’t, you can simply donate certain things or just throw them all away.
  2. Hang out with friends. First, make sure it’s not any of his or her friends. Hang out with people that are just your friends. Tell them what happened and that you don’t want to think about that person. Find things that all of you can do that will keep your mind only on the things you’re doing with them.
  3. Do some Spring Cleaning. Clean everything and everywhere. Move some furniture around. Treat yourself to some new furniture. Paint the walls. Make a project out of it. For some people, they don’t want to be at the place where the majority of the bad memories happened. All it does it remind them of what happened. I feel that changing things around may give some sort of a piece of mind.
  4. Spoil yourself. Go to the spa. Get your nails done. Get your hair done. Make yourself feel good for YOU. 
  5. If you feel that nothing is working to get over that person, try to get some closure from that person. Ask them why they feel a certain way about certain things that may have been a factor in the breakup. Tell them how you feel about certain things that may have been a factor. Let that person know that you’re sorry for anything you may have done or have not done. Ask if they are sorry for anything. If the conversations are just leading to an argument, try to calm back down, take a deep breath, and explain that you didn’t come to argue all over again, that you just wanted closure. Tell them it’s the only way you can truly move forward with your life. 
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