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How to Navigate a Long Distance Relationship

Five Simple Questions That Will Help Figure Out if a LDR Is for You

By roseyPublished 5 years ago Updated 2 years ago 3 min read
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For those few dangerous souls that dare to start a LDR or for those who are contemplating what goes into a good LDR, it's time to spill some secrets.

The truth is a long distance relationship will not necessarily be easy.

A long distance relationship will most likely come out of the blue. Like bumping into a stranger in a foreign place or stumbling upon a social media profile and feeling a spark. This spark builds to a flame and soon you have caught on fire with feelings but are worried about the idea of having a long distance relationship.

The best way to eliminate this fear is to ask yourself five questions about what a LRD would mean for you.

1. Am I comfortable trying something new?

This relationship will certainly test your limits. You must be open-minded.

2. How would this type relationship change my lifestyle? Can I handle those changes?

You must be prepared to be flexible and have patience with your significant other. There will most likely be some changes with your normal routine to have this new relationship work. Also you must be honest with yourself if you don't think you can be okay with changes.

3. Will I be able to handle the distance?

This seems like an obvious question but there is more to it then just the idea of distance. You must be prepared to possibly fall in love with this person and then be able to still handle not seeing them as often as you'd like. If you are a clingy person or feel that you need to be able to have that physical touch with someone, it may be very hard to get past that.

4. Can I communicate well enough to keep the relationship alive?

Communicate is key. This may be the biggest part of a LDR. Having the skills for effective communication could make or break the relationship. Texting, phone calls, video chats, etc. will be your new way of getting to know each other and express your love.

5. Am I ready to trust someone?

Trust is also key. You must be ready to be vulnerable and trust someone to be honest and open with you. In a normal relationship, you can see how one interactions with others and the world around them. Online, you will really only have what they want you to see.

To add, you will only understand them through their interactions with you and what information they share. This can be scary as they can lie or change their personality but it is a risk and you will have to decide if its worth it or not. Trusting yourself will be a huge part of figuring out if they are genuine or not.

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After thinking about these questions and your response, if you believe you could be a part of LDR it is time to talk to your potential lover about your feelings. This can be a hard topic to discuss with someone but it is crucial that you both have a discussion about the possibility of a long distance relationship.

During this talk, ask questions of how the LDR would work and some challenges that could arise. Be honest with each other. Realizing this might not be the best could save some heartbreak; but don't just dismiss trying because of laziness.

Having some plan or outline to fall back on may seem extreme but further down in the relationship it will serve as a reminder that you can work through a challenge.

Even though a long distance relationship is difficult, it is not impossible and those who are dedicated will see their love blossom in such a unique way.

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