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How to Spot a False Friend

I have years of experience with narcissists.

By Iria Vasquez-PaezPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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A false friend pretends to have interest. They walk up to you first, demanding friendship. In high school, I simply made better friends after that, I hung out with kids from my old school more than kids from St. Francis. Finding better friends is really easy, spotting a bully or manipulator is also easy. You have no idea that the manipulator will go for it because they are skilled at hiding themselves. They pretend to befriend you but really this is because they want to figure out how to manipulate you. One such bully was manipulating me into throwing out my lunch freshman year.

I repress all my bad memories as I have a scattered memory of freshman year since my family loved yelling at me all from some of grade 6 to 7th grade to 12th grade. I couldn’t get out of that situation by riding with someone else, now could I? I still feel trapped even if my family lives in a foreign country. Sometimes my family’s toxic nature is what allowed me to gravitate toward false friends. You see, false friends do not back you up when you are picked on.

They would rather you do everything they tell you to do like throw out your lunch than you be healthy bringing good lunches from home as that happened to me parts of my freshman year. I had to reduce the amount I hung out with the Protestant kids. I know some people really wanted me to feel bad but there were others who didn’t necessarily want me to be depressed. The older kids would pick on me for not being on medication or for needing medication and not having any. They would make suggestions as to how I could harm myself.

False friends have ill will towards you if they are jealous of your looks or how good the camera is to you. They harbor jealousy, which is a form of psychic attack and ill will. Ill will is real. It is almost palpable. It infects an environment such as a home or a room. Ill will is very damaging when you come across such thought-forms. False friends have ill will towards you if they make you throw out your lunch. I have C-PTSD, a severe form of PTSD from having to lose my friends in the last two years, because of them.

I hesitate to form friendships with anybody since I rarely trust people as it is. I’m wary of most individuals who show narcissistic traits or who snap at me. At least my new set of friends say things when they get angry, unlike toxic people who do not express their anger in anything but passive aggressive ways. They do not say, this upset me, this made me uncomfortable, I’m pissed off at you underneath my pleasant veneer. I cannot trust people who do not show emotions when troubled. If somebody sees me when I want to be alone I don’t trust people who do that. I don’t trust manic people. I do not trust people who do not take their medication as prescribed. I’m rarely around stable people anyway but I can tell why they are stable because they have none of the wild symptoms my family has. I’m worried about them if they’ve gotten worse or better. I pretty much can’t be around people’s symptoms with regard to people with mental illness. This is why I live by myself. I can’t stand other people’s energy sometimes, especially those with active mental health symptoms.

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Iria Vasquez-Paez

I have a B.A. in creative writing from San Francisco State. Can people please donate? I'm very low-income. I need to start an escape the Ferengi plan.

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