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I Moved to a Different Country for Love

21, Unemployed, and In Love

By Julie OlsenPublished 6 years ago 4 min read
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Long distance! Many people have/ have had a long distance relationship, including myself. I was in one for a little under a year. It didn't end though. I made a life decision based on it, revolving around it. It was the most important thing in my life.

Let's just back track a little and give some back story; I met my boyfriend when I was 20, in early summer 2016, on Tinder of all places! I had just gotten out of a relationship, and I was NOT looking for love. I was looking for a hook up. Luckily, I did find love. I was a couple of months into having Tinder, and I was actually thinking about deleting it. I was too big of a coward to actually meet someone from a dating app, or so I thought. All of a sudden there he was. He looked cute and interesting. And he wasn't some idiot just trying to get in my pants. We practically wrote novels back and forth to each other. We told each other everything.

Eventually, as per usual with online relationships, you want to meet each other. I was scared, but I wanted to meet him.

When I missed my train, I thought, "It's fate, can't argue with that. I am clearly not meant to go." And to be completely honest, I did think about the possibility of him being a murderer/ rapist/ 55-year-old creep. But I had already agreed to meet him and he was on his way, so I had to go. I was not the kind of person to stand someone up, I didn't have the balls. I still don't! Plus, there was the possibility of him being my soulmate, or that he was just really awesome and nice and we could be good friends or date for awhile. So I went. I was 20 minutes late and he still won't let me forget about it...

We were practically inseparable for the first four months of our relationship. We spent the entire summer together. We practically already lived together. But then the bomb dropped. He was going to university in England (I lived in Denmark). I had known all along he would be going, and it was like a ticking timebomb waiting to explode. I didn't expect myself to fall as hard or as fast as I did. But I did. So when time ran out and out summer together was over, I was not ready to say goodbye.

We decided to give long distance a shot. It was worth it. Neither of us was ready to say goodbye and end it. We Skyped everyday and visited each other as much as we could. I'm not going to lie. I did look up Long distance advice. Just a heads up, don't do that! Many people will tell you it's not worth it or it's not going to work. Don't listen. Go with what you believe. Make it work! There are going to be hard times, of course. It strains a relationship. It's hard in all senses of the word. I have shed my fair share of tears because of it. But in the end, if you're serious about it, everything will work out.

And, now a year later, we are living together. He is obviously still in university. I am not. I worked fulltime for the whole year we were separated to save up enough money to go live with him. And it happened.

Now I'm here, unemployed in a, to me, unfamiliar country, still in love. And I am happy.

This is where I am in my life. Was it a mistake? No, I don't think it was. Even if it turns out it's not going to work, I got an experience out if it. And I am fortunate enough to be able to go back and live with my parents, if it all goes down the gutter. Plus, the tickets are fairly cheap and it's only about an hour's journey.

I am aware it could go wrong, I am aware it was a risky move. But I'm fine. Don't worry about me. I'll figure something out from this. I am not helpless. I'm getting it all together.

I never thought I was going to be in this situation. I never thought I was going to leave my safe little home town and venture out into the big world, but that's life, I guess. I took a chance and I'm going to stick to it.

Here's to hoping everything works out in the end.

And here's to LOVE.

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