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I Was Told to Starve Myself

How I Overcame a Toxic Friendship

By Heerin ParkPublished 6 years ago 4 min read
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Honestly I just made the title the thing he told me that was the last straw. But I shall share my entire story as to why I was in a toxic friendship with this person and how I got out of it.

So this person... I shall name them "Davis" was one of my sister's friends and naturally because I'm very close to my sister, I ended up being friends with this person as well. And overall "Davis" and I were great friends as well. We got along and had a lot of things in common. But there was something about him that made me always question if he was using my sister and my family or if he really was a true friend. Unfortunately, my worries were true.

So, when I started questioning things... it was around my birthday and honestly every single year, I always go out to New York and just explore solo. But this year... it was different. This year, "Davis" was coming as well. This year, I ended up honestly not liking that my annual New York City trip. And it was mostly because he ruined it. Downright ruined it. He was telling me that I shouldn't buy certain things but the thing is I had money with me and I wanted to buy it. He was talking all night and complaining about the light from the cable box that showed the time. But there was something strange about that as well... he has slept over several times but decided to complain about it for only that night. Therefore no one in the room got any sleep because he was complaining about something so trivial.

There was also the time that he supposedly got tickets for the BTS Love Yourself Concert at Prudential Center and he didn't get enough for the whole group so he said he would resell them. And I told him that I was willing to buy the ticket from him at face value (aka the price that he paid) and he said "no." Which honestly is making me believe he's a complete jerk and/or he never had tickets in the first place.

Now to when he told me that I should starve myself. He picked me up from work and brought me to a park with him. And I was looking at him going "I didn't eat yet." So he goes "we'll eat after" or something around that nature. And while I was walking around the park with him, he casually suggested that I should stop buying so much food and that I should starve myself to save money. Then when he was driving me home, he was like, "Do you want to eat McDonald's?" And I paused thinking if I want McDonalds and because I paused, he said that I "failed" because it was a test and because I hesitated to answer, it meant that I wanted to spend money. Honestly, I wanted to spend money on food. On something that I need. Yes there are times that I starve myself but that's if I have my own goals and stuff. But there are also times that I forget to eat all together so if the subject of getting food comes... I will always say "yes," just so I remember to actually eat. But this was the moment that I realized he was a toxic friend.

So how did I get out of the friendship? I blocked his number, his social media, everything. I didn't want anything to do with him. And then my sister also found out as well as my mom and they all said that they would do the same... which they did.

Now I know that many friendships that are toxic are harder to get out of. But since this was my sister's friend and he was a friend to my family as well... it was a bit hard.

I do also want to tell everyone out there that it's okay to eat whatever you want. If you're happy with your own image it's fine. But please if you are in a toxic friendship... please don't torture yourself. Get out of it as soon as possible. Cut ties with that person. There are a lot of people in the world and surely there are ones that will love you for you. Not use you for anything or put you down for reasons that shouldn't be said.

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I actually also forgot to mention this but he also actually insulted me for my job and the fact that I work in retail. And despite retail not being an ideal job... it's still a job. And he dares try to say that I shouldn't spend money at all but it's my money that I earned. So in a way that too made me realized he wasn't a friend at all.

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Heerin Park

Most of my writing will be a mix of KPop, KDramas, KBeauty and some life events that I went through.

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