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If the Black Man Is a Dog... the Black Woman Is a Bitch

Dogs lay with dogs.

By Tee CrawleyPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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Every day I see posts calling black men dogs, deadbeats, liars, ignorant, fakes, phonies, swindlers, and more. They are degraded like no other, and to make matters worse, it comes from black women. The same women, that claim to be the backbone of the community, yet they snap that bone in half, cripple their men with words and still expect him to walk upright. We raise our children on this premise, we go to the media with this rhetoric, we salute, support, and praise movies and shows that make this their theme. Yet we turn right around and want the love, respect, adoration, praise, and honor because we are women, because we bear their children, because we are black.

How can we teach the lesson, that respect is given to those that give respect, yet we don't do the same for our men? How can we demand honor but dish out disgust? How can we be so hypocritical, to be so outspoken about our men, but become outraged when other women of other nationalities speak the same words of our men?

Am I implying that the women that speak as they do, have not been hurt and should forget all the pain; no. I understand, have been there, seen it, felt the pain, but will I make every man a liar, will I make every man a cheater? How can I, I do not want to be clumped in the category of women that are considered "ratchet" (I hate that word as a matter of fact).

We act as if we hate our men, yet we claim to want to build with them, through love. Who in their right mind really wants to build a life with one that has shown a hatred towards them,without even knowing them? Will this not seep out into the "relationship" at some point? How does one defend themselves against such hate... in their own home?

Every species mates with their own, this is a fact. So, if we examine the statement "Men are dogs," what does that say about the women? Are we so far removed from reality, that we have not thought about the fact that dogs only lay with dogs? I may be taking the statement to its extreme, however I find the "men are dogs" campaign to be sad. So, if you find my analogy out of pocket, then imagine the disgust men feel hearing this about themselves, from the very women that are supposed to lift them up. Yes men call women bitches, whores, trash, hoes and so on, does this enrage me, of course. But this is a harder fight to fight, when the same music that calls us the same, we sing louder than the men, we dance to harder, we make that "this is my song" face when it comes on, we call one another the same things, often out of "love." So, how do I attack men for it, when we give the example that it is okay?

Our men are attacked on every front and the last people they need to be attacked by is their women. Yes, there is a lot of work to be done on their part, a lot of behavior that needs to cease. But there is a lot of work, the black woman needs to do on herself. It's a two way street and if women don't start to work on themselves, they will be by themselves, convincing themselves it is because men are intimidated by a "strong woman." No ma'am. We are by ourselves because we are hindering our men from being the Kings that they are.

*This is not a fight against black women, it is me fighting for the growth of black women. The title of this post and other posts, may seem to represent otherwise, however if you take your emotions away when reading, you will see this to be true. The title is to demonstrate a point and as you read. I, in no way, am calling black women bitches.

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