Is the Timing Right?

I have always been someone who needs everything in the moment to feel right; perfect. The air must be the right temperature, the wind must be blowing the right way. Many times, I would put my actions off for later because “the moment did not feel right.” It was a sorry excuse. It was not even necessarily procrastination, but rather the fear of pushing through the act in the moment and it not going the way I desired it to. Time took ownership when love and life were not working out. The excuses we make for our relationships not going the way we hoped they would is that the timing was of. The reality of time though, is that we create it.

To some, love appears when everything in life is dark. To others, it appears only to lighten your life further, but to all, it comes when it should simply come. My personal belief is that the timing cannot be wrong. Yes, timing can totally be a bitch, but it is a difficult obstacle that we all must face. Yes, it sucks that your soulmate appeared when you were about to move away for school. Yes, it sucked that you were not prepared for any of it, but that is where the beauty lies. You are never prepared for any of it. Who is? Even when someone meets their soulmate when they believe they are ready to create a family, they still face obstacles in their relationship that they were not prepared for. Love, life, relationships are always unpredictable and spread across a large scale. They are never easy, and never can you spend your day wrapped up in a room preparing for it.

The first time I fell in love, I was 12 years old. Personally, I never expected myself to experience a feeling like that. Ever. I believed it was out of the ordinary for me; not on my agenda. I always believed the timing was wrong, and it shouldn’t have happened when I desired to feel emotions like that. As I think about it now, I could not imagine my life having gone any other way. I loved that boy for six years after, and never, not even for a moment, did I feel prepared for any of it. Even as I grew, I could not untangle myself from the mess as I was growing into. There were no solutions in books, or any advice anyone could give me to fix myself from it. I used to wish and dream of a world where I would have met him at a more mature age—an age where we were both ready. The more I learned about the world and its wonders, the more I realized that the time had been right the moment I had fallen for him. If I had given myself the chance to, perhaps it could have bloomed, but instead, I dwelled on the idea of whether it was the right time or not. It was. It always is. I always wish that I could have simply taken that leap of faith. Now, I know that I should always jump. Never should I sip myself and push an idea away. Whether you believe you are not ready, you will become ready the moment you fall in love with that person. All you simply need is the love and the patience and the courage to be able to put yourself on the line. If it goes wrong, it does not mean the timing was wrong. It means all of it was wrong. If it is meant to be, it will happen at any given time.

The concept of time is an excuse to push your desires later into the future. When you keep putting what you want to do off, you place yourself in a situation where you may never experience what you may have been able to experience. You are unable to flourish and are stuck in a world that focuses on what will happen and not what is happening. By living in the future, you do not take risks, and risks are the core of being able to grow. I suppose life makes us feel as though there is a right time for everything, but the right time is whenever we want it to be. We, as humans, can create the right time by facing our challenges. Stop planning for the perfect time and start living. Simply living. So when we ask ourselves, “is the time right?” Yes. Right now. This exact moment. The present is the right time. Always.