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It's Okay to Let a Toxic Person Go

No matter who they are to you, it's okay to drop them out of your life—no explanation needed.

By Tiffany JoyPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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I was a sophomore in high school, he was a dreamy senior. (A total cliché, I'm aware.) Without going into full detail, I met him on this app called 'Afterschool'—which basically is a place where people can make posts anonymously about who they like or throw insults at other people. The catch though is that once a name is put out there from a post, the app can generate fake posts using the above mentioned name, and post it. I won't be using real names to protect the identity of these people. So, we can call this guy Kevin. Well, Kevin's name popped up quite a few times about how 'Kevin is so hot' and nonetheless, I was curious. After requesting him as a friend on Facebook, we started to talk. This led to me coming to his house whenever I could. He would give me rides to school, and even invite me to dinner at his house. He was always interested in doing sexual things, but I felt I wasn't ready for that. When he would text me, he would call me 'beautiful' and so on. Though he would always take a long time to text back, and his excuses always came up short, and often. After submitting my complete trust to him, I found out from another girl that goes to my school, that Kevin had been talking to me, her, and two other girls at the same time. And when I mean talking, I really mean taking them places as well, calling them beautiful, and basically the whole, "I'm in a relationship with you but not really because I won't call you my girlfriend, but I will do couple stuff with you."

I. Was. Torn. Completely heartbroken. It was silly, but this was my first love. After Kevin found out that I knew, he apologized up and down to me, telling me how sorry he was, this and that. And I caved in, I did. I wanted to truly feel like he was sorry, so I forgave him, but I didn't forget it. Eventually through the summer into the next school year, he stopped talking to me less and less. I tried to engage conversation, and he would completely blow me off. Always beating around the bush and never giving me a straight answer. I wondered what I had done wrong.

Turns out, he was talking to a new girl, Ashley. He would go over to her house, eat dinner with her family, go to football games with her. I had lost it at that point, I went full-on crazy. I avoided Ashley everywhere I went, and I hated Kevin with a passion.

Fast forward to a few months later and it's February. I met the love of my life. He showed me how to love again, and he cared for me in any way he could. I was the happiest I had ever been in my life. But Kevin had gotten rid of Ashley, so back to me he ran. So, I blocked him. On everything. I cut ties with him, and I could not be happier.

Listen. I know it seems like you'll never find anybody like that again, and that you love this person so much. But you have to stop making excuses for their behavior and the narcissistic pattern they continue to have. They won't likely change anytime soon, and they won't stop hurting you. It isn't love, it's vile. It isn't right, under any circumstance. It will definitely hurt for a little bit, but you have to let them go. and I promise that once you do, your life will immediately get better, in all aspects. It's completely okay to drop them out of your life, because your health and mental well-being is always important and should always come first.

Always remember how strong you are and how much courage you possess.

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