Let Him Go, Sis...

Don't be fooled, ladies. If these f*ckboys put all their effort into acting like Mr. Nice Guy on the big screen, as they do in front of us...Oscars all around, because bravo! Now, I may not be the f*ckboy expert. However, I've had my way with one too many of them that it's probably more beneficial to share my relatable experiences, and spread awareness rather than laying in bed sulking in sadness and eating vegan Ben & Jerry's Ice Cream. We're better than that, right ladies? Thus, I hope to dawn a bad b*tch attitude on each and every one of you, because YOU deserve it. Also, some of us just need to hear it a couple more times to believe it.

First, the most important point I am going to make throughout this entire post... it's not you, it's HIM. I really, really, hope you're not blaming yourself for whatever may have happened, or questioning scenarios in your head of what you could have done differently. The many faults and happenings of a f*ckboy are issues that they hold within themselves.

From dating a guy with serious mommy issues and his constant possessiveness and need for attention, all the way to the ones who were in serious relationships before you and leave you thinking why he was capable of a relationship, yet doesn't want one with you... and everything in between. These are not YOUR fault. They're his!

Fear of commitment dwellers, AKA gamophobes (it's a serious phobia look it up), are the f*ckboys that test the waters with every girl they see (literally ANYthing that walks). They do this to see how far they can take the relationship, and your "wifey" duties, without making it official. Which brings me to this, ladies... DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT give a guy those girlfriend/wifely benefits if he has not made anything official yet. Think about it like this... if you've already given a guy everything he is going to have after making it official, why would he call you his girlfriend when he can stay swimming in that no-label zone AND have all the benefits of having a girlfriend? Either way, all a waste of time. NEXT.

Okay, the f*ckboys who were in a relationship before you are most likely going through their h*e phase. They'll probably be stuck there until their moms start pressuring them about settling down and wanting grandkids. When a guy has been through a long term relationship and is finally single, it goes one of two ways. One, he goes straight back into another relationship, or two, tests every water that he didn't have a chance to test while being stuck with the same person for a significant period of time. Again, his issue. Not yours. Even if we get stuck with the baggage and heartbreak.

Secondly, I'm going to tell you the one thing you don't want to hear. It's going to take TIME... and by that, I mean a long time. Depending on the amount of time he dragged you along for, odds are you're already more than waist deep in your feeling's at this point. When those red flags start flashing and you realize he is, in fact, the f*ckboy you thought would never fool you, it's time to back it up and get the f*ck outta there.

Personally, I'm a very sensitive/emotional person, meaning it takes me FOREVER to get over a guy I truly thought I saw something special in. Nonetheless, I can proudly say I have gotten over every single guy who's picked my heart up, tossed it, just to hit a grand slam outta the park, and break it into a million pieces. Unfortunately, I wish I was here to tell you how I did it, but we're only human and these things take time. It all comes down to looking forward, and focusing on who you are, what you need, and what you ultimately deserve. If it's a guy who isn't acknowledging your feelings, isn't telling his friends and family about you, isn't treating you on thoughtful dates, and only texts you after eight PM... Let him go sis. Every f*ckboy you let go, will make you just that much stronger and smarter for the next guy who comes along and has to worship the ground you walk on.

We're all in this together. However, in the mean time, just be your version of a bad b*tch and give these tips some consideration... doesn't hurt to try!

1. You are not crazy or psycho for wanting RESPECT.

Most of the time you'll get caught up in how he's saying all the right things, and how handsome he is, that you start to lose yourself in the midst. You are not being difficult or ruining anything for wanting to prioritize yourself and your feelings.

2. Delete him from all the socials!

I know this is a tough one. I, for one, took so long to unfollow on Instagram because of course you want him to see how good you're doing without him. This is totally okay; however, every time he posts something, memories and feelings will keep coming back, and it'll just bring up negative feelings that we DON'T WANT. Totally okay to re-follow when you're over him or have to be around him if you're in the same friend group. But remember, you're doing this for YOU!

3. Work on YOU.

Whether it be physically and you want to start hitting the gym, or that SoulCycle class you've been dying to try with your friends. Anything towards bettering your health and body ultimately leads to bettering your mental health as well. May I suggest some hot yoga? Burning calories while meditating helps your mind and body focus on the positive in your life, and totally detoxes you of any negative auras. Not only does working on you mean getting your revenge body right, but getting to a positive and uplifted mental state is priority. Whatever hobby it may be that gives you that sense of purpose, do that.

4. WRITE. WRITE. WRITE.

So we've all heard about the whole write a letter to your enemy and say absolutely everything you've ever wanted to say, but never actually mail it? Well, it WORKS! Writing releases any crowded thoughts, and gives those annoying, negative thoughts a place to live. So remember all those thoughts about said f*ckboy and the amazing things you imagined would have happened in the alternate universe of nice-guys? Have them pack up, move out, and live on a piece of paper in your journal you can look back on, in a year or two. You'll laugh at how in love with him you were, and be happy you moved on, and wrote it all down. Trust me, it works. Write anything, and everything.

5. Surround yourself with true friends.

There really is nothing better than letting it all out at a wine and movie night with your girls. You will feel empowered, strong, and confident when you're around women who know what you deserve and what's best for you. They love you, and want to see you with someone who will love you, just as much as they do... not the loser you're crying over while watching Chad Michael Murray fall in love with Hillary Duff in A Cinderella Story. (You'll find your Austin Ames one day too, don't worry.)

6. Don't be afraid to be single!

Being adventurous and secure with your body comes with the liberty of being single and loving yourself. Teaching yourself how to be happy on your own will give you the sense of confidence you've been missing. When you fall in love with yourself, you'll attract the best, of the best, and wonder why you were ever obsessing over Chad from Kappa Sigma Apple Pie all along.