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Letting Go

Let go.

By Nadia TapiaPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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Sometimes the hardest thing one must do is let go. Whether it is a relationship, friendship, or even a family member. I can admit that it’s easier said than done. Sometimes we love people who are just toxic to us, and no matter what we do, we cannot change their ways. I’m not saying to change them into someone else. What I mean is that the people that are toxic are the ones that use poisons to escape reality, such as pills, alcohol, coke, heroin, etc. They must be the ones that want to change. I learned this the hard way. I thought that I could show the people I love that they are so much more, but I felt like failed because they don’t want to change. They like the poisons they consume, and because of this I had to do what is best for me. For once in my life, I was able to say no and to say goodbye even though it was hard for me to do so.

I was born with my heart on my sleeve, and I was taught to give instead of take. I used to believe that this was a weakness of mine, but it took me some time to realize that it’s a strength. It’s OK to care and to love, but it’s not OK to be used. It’s not OK to have a one-sided friendship nor relationship. It’s not OK to use someone heart. If you have a big heart, you will attract toxic people because they see your spirit and they want your energy/vibes. It’s funny that no matter how many times my heart has been hurt by the people I’ve loved, I’m still a positive person.

I’ve lived in the darkness of depression and I found my way out. I chose to stay out the darkness because I realize that I’m the one in control of my emotions and that is something to be proud of. I fought my depression on my own without prescription pills, and I overcame some of my fears. One of my main fears was to let go because I feared to be alone, but sometimes in life we must let go of people that aren’t meant to be in our future.

Here are some steps that help me let go.

1. PUT YOURSELF FIRST.

2. PUT YOURSELF FIRST.

3. PUT YOURSELF FIRST.

4. Learn to say no. (It’s OK to say no.)

5. Know your own value.

6. You cannot save everyone and it’s not your job to do so.

7. You are in control of your own emotions.

Yes, the first three steps are the same because it is one of the hardest steps anyone with a big heart can do. We are the type of people that put others before ourselves and we forget that we must take care of ourselves first before we can help others. Step four was a difficult step because I can admit I hate to say no to anyone, but I had to learn. In time, you learn that it is OK to say no and not feel guilty about it. Step five is to know your worth and best believe you are worth the world. Step six may seem heartless, but it’s not because it’s the truth. We cannot save everyone and it’s not our job to do so. We try our best to help out as much as we can but sometimes we have to limit ourselves. Our job is to spread kindness where ever we go. Step seven does seem difficult, well more difficult for women than men because we tend to be hormone creatures, but once you master this step, you learn that your happiness means more again. Whenever you are faced with negativity, turn it into a positive. You are the one in control of your emotions and your thoughts.

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Nadia Tapia

28 years old. Inspiring Novelist and College Student.

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