Sometimes you have to make a decision to move forward and let go of the past. Remember, no matter why you're no longer a couple, you don’t need to feel the guilt or responsibility for the other person.
Closure is important in order to give meaning to the relationship, but also, it gives your mind the freedom to know that it's over and done, and there is no miscommunication. That person was part of your life, sharing and experiencing, so it might have made you stronger and possibly helped you grow. Sometimes closure is not given, leaving you in limbo where you cannot move forward. So this is where you learn to let go and move on to be able to love and be loved, not looking back.
Breaking up is hard to do, but don’t stay in a relationship because of guilt or regret. This is not good for you in the moment or for your future. You will waste time and also your emotions involved.
If the person wants space, no texts or calls please, give them their request. Nothing is more annoying than dealing with a person not letting go... fears, frustration and the possibility of never coming back even as a friend after all that drama.
Hypnotherapy can help with dating relationships, and couple's counseling is all that is needed if you are wanting change or closure to let go... this can help you see things more realistically so that you can handle your relationship and see it from another point of view.
These nine signs can help you determine if you need to let go of your relationship and move on.
1. Trust
Trust is number one. Lies, cheating, and mistrust determine if a relationship is solid or not.
2. Needy
This can be a problem because neediness drains you of your time and energy, including the time and energy necessary to maintain other relationships and take care of yourself. Sometimes, boundaries or space is needed, and someone that needs it constantly can cause more problems.
3. You Changed
It’s exhausting to not be yourself. This can happen when you are around others trying to be cool or someone you’re not. Many people feel that pretending to be more interesting can attract the right people, and others feel that being someone you're not is lying, so the trust issue is now questioned.
4. Arguing Again
In a positive relationship, you should mostly be happy and be able to compromise. You should be accepting of each other—supportive, and responsive. Arguing can be healthy, but too much can cause guilt, stress and anxiety. So stop and think before you start to raise your voice.
5. You Don’t Hear Me
Attentiveness and awareness when you are speaking is crucial. A person that values your relationship will make your presence a priority, including when you’re trying to have a conversation.
6. Relationship Is Not a Priority
If someone is not willing to make some time for you through a quick phone call or text, they are effectively showing indifference—not a good trait to have in a positive relationship. Time is precious, and consideration for the person in your relationship is necessary to maintain good communication skills.
7. Not Supportive
Have you ever been there when a friend needed you the most, only to have them disappear when you asked them to reciprocate? When you are needing to vent or talk, your partner should be able to listen and be there for support.
8. Caring is Not Natural
Good relationships are made up of two individuals who have chosen to love and care for each other. It’s easy for someone to show up in your life and tell you that they love you; it’s much more difficult for them to demonstrate that love consistently. Actions are better than words, so act on it.
9. You Don’t Seem Consistent
We are not talking about dependability here. We’re talking about wishy-washy, flaky behavior and general inconsistency in applying the principles that make up a good relationship: trust, acceptance, positivity, attentiveness, and prioritization.
About the Creator
Pattie Freeman
Board Certified Hypnotherapist, Mental Coach and Author. I am considered a Mental Expert for Relationship Issues. I have Passion for helping others so I teach others how to become successful in what they want to achieve in their life.
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