Live in the NOW

Every individual goes through a breaking point in their life, whether you are single or in a relationship. I have currently reached my breaking point in life and maybe most of you can relate to this problem many people face. Whether you are single or in a relationship, take the time to read this because the biggest problem in life that many can relate to is that we all live for the future and not the present. I want you as a reader to get comfortable and read this life story I would like to share because I want my experience to help anyone that I can reach out to.

I have just graduated college and I am in a committed relationship of three years now and I thought my life and my relationship was all rainbows and butterflies. My boyfriend moved cities for a better career; I will be joining him when our current lease is up. Everything was great. We were finally planning our future and then reality HIT ME and it hit hard. Those that know me, I am a planner and I like things to be planned. Well, at this moment in time I realized in life sometimes you cannot really plan life because it is an unwritten book and you must take it page by page. Some may disagree and yes some do fulfill their plans, but my story is different.

“I am not happy. We both know we are forcing this relationship to work. I do not want marriage or kids. I have not been happy for a while and I just could not tell you. I love you, but I need time right now.” Those words right there, I like to call my breaking point. I received this message out of nowhere. I was so lost and confused and ALONE. My plan set me up for failure at that moment in time. My plan was marriage and kids and the FUTURE. Every day was hard to get motivated because I thought I had to start all over on my life and figure out what was best for myself, while holding on to whatever was left in my relationship. That was the best decision I have made for my relationship in a long time, holding on to what was left in my relationship.

You might ask why hold on after all those words about how he feels are out in the open now? I held on because I needed to know if there was anything left after three years of time and effort. It was too late to live in the past and redo everything and it was not the right time to live for our future, it was time to finally live in the NOW. We decided to take the time for each other and our relationship and discuss every pro and con of our relationship and ourselves. We discovered that we had similar pros and cons and discussed how we could better our cons not for each other, but for ourselves. One of our answers to our problems was to live for what we have now and the rest will come.

I was so focused on the future that I lost my relationship along the way. I took advantage of what I had right in front of me and focused too much on what I wanted. Whether you are single or in a relationship, you need to start taking your life one day at a time. Be happy and enjoy what you currently have. If you do not like what you currently have, then take it day by day to be where you want to be, but just don't get so wrapped up in your future that you forget to live for NOW.