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Getting a divorce can be one of the hardest things to have to go through at any age, it can leave your confidence shaken and it can leave you feeling as if you are completely alone and lonely. But whether it seems like it or not, you are never completely alone and there is always someone to talk to, even if you don't know them. You are not alone in your situation and there is always someone who understands the loneliness and pain you are going through.
Loneliness and the Internet
For some people, getting to know others straight after a divorce is out of the question. Whether this is for dating or friendship, it can be too much too soon for many people. This is where the internet can come in handy. If you want to talk to someone without the pressure of meeting up, try an internet chat room or forum. There are people all over the world that just want someone to talk to but not meet up with, and these people can turn into some genuine friends. It can be a wonderful way to ease the loneliness with no pressure of having to meet.
Try different chatrooms based on what kind of interaction you are looking for. There are chatrooms dedicated to so many subjects and ways of life, you will be sure to find a place where you fit in.
Not only does the internet provide places to talk, it is also a great place for advice. Someone, somewhere is always going through the same problem as you, if you don't believe me then type your problem into a search engine and see what comes up. I guarantee you will find a match. You can find some really useful advice from people that have already been where you are right now and come out of the other side of it. They used to be as lonely after their divorce as you feel now, and they survived, so you can, too.
A Hobby to Ease Loneliness
Many people find that sitting and watching TV by themselves is one of the hardest and loneliest things after a divorce. Even though you may not have said much to your partner when you were watching TV, they were there, they were a constant presence; this is why many people find it so hard. One way to help alleviate loneliness is to cut down the amount of TV that you watch, and try engaging in a hobby instead. Think about what you like to do in your spare time, what you have always wanted to do, or what you are good at, and then start doing that instead of wasting time in front of the TV.
Learn Something If You Are Lonely
Boredom and loneliness seem to go hand in hand, and so it goes without saying that you need to stop the boredom! A great way to do this is to learn something. This keeps the mind active and gives you something to focus on. Whether you take a class or learn at home, focusing your mind will make you feel a lot better. It will also open up another potential world of people you could connect with.
Start a Project If You Feel Lonely
Think about a big thing that you have always wanted to do. Whether that is renovate your kitchen or write a book, what is to stop you from doing it? Having a project will occupy your mind and keep you incredibly focused and less lonely.
Making Friends as an Adult
Making friends as an adult is hard. Kids have it easy—they can just ask the question, "do you want to be my friend?" If you ask an adult that then they will think you are weird. But there are many groups that are dedicated to helping people make friends. Just search for friends groups and your local area and you are sure to find something that interests you.
If you are nervous, then remember, all of these people are there for the same reason that you are: to make friends and get to know people a little better. Even if they don't seem like the people you would normally hang out with, give them a chance. They might turn out to be really nice people!
Loneliness Does Go Away After Divorce
Being lonely is horrible. It can leave you feeling empty and isolated, but there are ways to ease the loneliness and make yourself feel more positive again.