Longest Long Distance Relationship

Communication is key! This long journey of a relationship begins with two people meeting by chance on an app. Some would say it’s fate, a match made in heaven or even just plain lucky. We are in a day and age where it is more and more common to meet people online and use apps like Tinder and OKCupid where we can “fall in love.” A lot of these relationships are just hook ups or fail easily after a short amount of time. But some are just “meant to be” and have a happy ending. So is this relationship fate or just pure luck? Could it be another happy ending?

November 2017 I met my lucky match. A friend of mine had made me a profile for a Mormon dating app (mutual). Of course at the start of it all I was talking it up with several guys. I was going on plenty of dates and had lots of boys show interest in me. So naturally I’d talk to anyone that wanted to talk to me and have an actual conversation. FYI, a lot of them didn’t know how to keep a conversation going so I’d just give up on them. One day I get a match with a guy I had thought was cute. He gets straight to business with giving me his number. We start texting and he seems like a nice guy but I’m not that interested at first. But I really like the face that he actually wanted to talk to me. We had great conversation and laughed all the time. After a few days of texting back-and-forth he asks me if he can call me. I was shocked! I had never had a guy ask to call me. Usually it was the other way around. I’m an old fashioned type of girl and prefer talking on the phone. It’s more pleasant and enjoyable to be able to hear the other person. So of course I said yes and we spoke for the first time. On the first call we found out that we had the same birthday. We had to send pictures of our IDs because we didn’t believe each other. After that calls were a daily occurrence. We would FaceTime before bed or call the other up after getting off work to say how our day went and just talk as we would head home. Things were going quite well. The only thing was that we were several states apart from each other. To make matters worse, I was leaving to New Zealand in January for 9 months...

Despite knowing that I was leaving the country he didn’t run away, didn’t stop talking to me and never went a day without wanting the chance to be with me. So finally we decided that it was time to meet. We figured that if we wanted this to work out we had to see each other face to face for the first time. So Thanksgiving rolls around and we meet up halfway and go on some dates. It was a magical time and I never felt more comfortable with someone after only meeting them for the first time. It just felt so good! As we parted after 3 wonderful days together we headed back to our daily lives and our long distance relationship. What we didn’t realize was the hard long road ahead of us. I left to New Zealand, lonely but not alone. The time difference was the hardest part. Being 19 hours ahead with a 6 hour time difference made talking very difficult. He would stay up late into the night at his time to talk to me for an hour or so as I was just getting off of work in the early evening my time. And sometimes I’d wake early in the morning to talk to him for a hot second while it was the early afternoon for him. We survived and thrived off of just talking to each other. That was all we could do. But because we made those sacrifices to talk daily, we survived being apart for so long and were still happier than ever! As I said before, communication is key. When times got heard we made sure to let each other know how we were feeling and we resolved our problems together. Times definitely got hard and I got emotional because I’m a hormonal girl but he helped me and I helped him. We are honestly when we talk and we know how to read one another’s body language. We are two imperfect people doing our humanly best to make something perfect. And we succeeded. Now I am home and we are able to see each other more, but what a blessing it was to go through that journey and to do it together. I believe that it has strengthened our relationship and made us compatible. So whether its fate or a match made in heaven, hopefully one day I’ll know.