Love....?

There is a huge difference between LOVE, LIKE, and LUST. A lot of the time like and lust are confused for love. Sadly, people are so quick to say “I love you,” throwing people off and making them think someone loves them when they don't. Ladies and gentlemen, I encourage you all to watch the other party's actions instead of listening to the words they say alone. And don’t you dare feel obligated to say “I love you too,” because then how you really feel will be falsely interpreted. The relationship then becomes a domino effect leading to a lot of “fake” this and thats and it is then no longer called a relationship but instead, what my mom calls, false advertisement.

Everyone nowadays is so desperate to find “the one” that they’re in a rush and either mistake love for one of the other two L's or do it just flat out wrong. Obviously I am not a love expert but this should be common sense, I don’t care how good the other party looks — do not get with them for their enhancements. It should solely be about the connection between the two of you. Feeling hot about someone is a reason a lot of people make a move.

The best way to tell is asking why someone is interested in you. If they are giving you bull answers then they lust for you no matter how bad they think they like you. If they even mention love, laugh and walk away. Liking someone could mean two things: friendship or a relationship —simple as that. But understand the difference between liking the one you are in a relationship with, and loving them. Liking could be seeing a possible dating life, maybe marriage, and they make you nervous — liking is more than a friendship level. Love is like marriage-severity, move in with, and for some people — organ donation. "In love" is rest of your life spent with that person, kids, and owning things together. It all depends on the circumstance because some things people do is for a friend. Don’t get me wrong you can love a friend, it’s more so in the sense of “having love” for someone — like caring. It’s the certain people in life that you’ll come across and always have love for but it’s crucial to not get that mixed up with the other types of love. It’s best to evaluate how you feel before advertising it to the world.

A thing I see people do is, basically, lose themselves while in a relationship with someone. A complete personality change occurs and the friends of that person questions if they were even friends because of the change. A relationship should never get that far, if you are having to change to make the other person happy. You should be accepted just like you were in the beginning. Especially if you are unhappy, that’s dead. At the point it’s not a relationship anymore really — you’re being held hostage and it will be false advertising. If you actually sit back and catch yourself doing things that you don't usually do, you may want to question if you’re okay with it. Your partner may not always be the best fit for you if you have changed for the worse. But if you like how the relationship is, fight for it. It’s yours anyway. Then again you shouldn’t fight for a relationship when there’s nothing there — that’s like trying to light a candle with no wick. So don’t lose who you are and your standards to make someone else happy. In the end you will feel so much better to let go.

Stay true to yourself and how you feel about anyone, they will appreciate you so much more than if you lied to them and made them think someone cared and you really didn’t. This could lead to a set of problems because of the fear to keep it real with whomever.

~ciao

Kentoya