Love Isn’t Hopeless, Our Ideals of It Are

“One day someone will love you, the way you love that silly necklace of yours.”

“It’s not silly. It was created with love, found with love, and given with love. You mean to tell me you wouldn’t hold onto something that brought a mere moment of happiness and clarity to your life?”

“No, I don’t think it’s that important.”

“And you will never have the kind of love you deserve. If you have no ability to hold and care for a trinket from a moment, how will you ever do so for a person who gives you that same understanding?”

And to that degree, many of us don't. We never stop to understand that though the collision of two minds is the essential element to embracing passion in one's life... it must be kept up, reminded, and flourished.

Nobody is ever going to spell out what love is, what you are supposed to do when you feel it, what it feels like, and who you are going to love...

Everyone’s idea of it will be different.

Everyone’s expectations of it will be different.

But what we have begun to do, is have this stigma of what is right and wrong in love, timeline requirements, excuses... we are almost willing to accept the fact that we run from it. To then what, complain about how we lack it years later? We set ourselves in a maze with no real way out, and not because of fear like we claim, but a misunderstanding of what love is or can be.

This storybook version of what you think needs to play out in your own script may seem flawless, but in hindsight, only elements will be that picturesque.

Sometimes love really is just simple and beautiful. The only thing that flower needs to bloom is some water and sunlight.

To truly understand someone’s soul is love. Seeing life in their theories and philosophies and finding it is ever so wonderful. Falling for the way their passion burns for things they enjoy, even if you yourself do not. But taking it one step further by sharing with them in those admirations.

Feeling contentment in their words, and lustrous in their smile. Never truly wanting to stop spending silences without them by your side.

But for some it may be different; maybe your minds don’t harmonize quickly, but there is true happiness in moments that can be overlooked because of that. We tend to complicate things in society that don’t need to be complicated. We lie about things that don’t need to be lied about.

We have become our own worst enemy.

This is why relationships don’t last or why people think of reasons why they shouldn’t give someone a chance, or tell themselves they aren’t ready. You don’t get to redo moments or people in your life often.

We need to come to the idea that when things don’t work out on account of our choices... the choice to then take the next chance that’s placed in front of us, can be what makes or breaks our great love.

Sure seems like a lot of pressure, but don’t overthink everything and the pressure becomes non-existent.

Love is not hopeless, we are... If we don’t stop thinking of all the reasons to blame the universe and continually using excuses of our own, we will be doomed a loveless life.

To find clarity, you must create clarity.

If you feel happy, be happy.

If you feel in love, be in love.

It’s as simple as that.