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Marriage Is a Life Sentence

Marriage Advice

So, in today’s world I have heard repeatedly that marriage is just a piece of paper. Some say you don’t have to be married to do things married couples do. You don’t have to be tied down to just one person your entire life. Some have even said I can’t make a commitment for the rest of my life, I’m so young.

Well to me, the people who make these statements don’t know what they’re missing. I got married at the age of 21 while my spouse was 22. We are now going to be 24 and 25 this year and I cannot tell you how being married has changed my life.

To many young women, marriage is like heaven. You want to be with someone forever who will love you unconditionally and love all your faults. Us women have been dreaming of our wedding day since we were little girls. We’ve dreamt of the big white dress, the decorations, the cake, the bridesmaid’s dresses, and the flowers. The only thing that we’re missing is the groom. So, we go out and search for mister right until we find him. Men are quite different. They usually make the remarks about marriage. My theory is they are insecure about letting someone into their lives. Men aren’t searching for their wives like women search for their husbands because men are resilient to change. Men don’t want to find the miss right because they will change who they are to be everything for the right women.

Surprisingly I found my mister right a few years ago and never realized he was just around the corner. (I’ll share my love story one day, so you know what I mean.) Since I have gotten married a few years ago, I have heard multiple lines come from not only men but women as well. So, here is my advice on what people say, agree, or disagree. This is my opinion.

1. Marriage is just a piece of paper.

Whoever says this truly does not know the meaning behind this “piece of paper.” Getting this paper is the beginning of a new start of life with your soulmate. As a couple you are committing to one another for the rest of your lives. You’re saying "I do" to being together for one another through anything that challenges you as a couple and you individually, knowing that if you’re going through something alone, you’re truly not. You have another person right beside you for you to lean on.

2. You’re tied down to only one person for the rest of your life.

Yes, this is true sexually, but being married does not mean that you can’t make new friends together or separately. You can still be who you are and meet new people or still go hang out with your friends.

3. You don’t have to married to do what married couples do.

This is true, but wouldn’t you want your best friend along for the ride? The best friend you committed to for the rest of your life?

4. I can’t commit myself to someone for the rest of my life.

Well, if you truly think this, you are wrong. You commit to yourself every day, why not throw a person who truly loves you for who you are into the mix? Why wouldn’t you want to be with someone who loves you and your flaws for the rest of your life?

To truly love someone and be in a committed relationship, you must work on you. You must be the best you, you can be. Someone is out there for everyone.

I could never tell you how much being married has made my life change for the better. Knowing that I don’t have to go through things alone and always having someone on my side. I wish everyone out there finds their special someone because it truly makes a difference in your life. 

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