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Marrying Young

Marrying young is hard. You'll get hate for it, but you can get through it.

By Victoria RodriguezPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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It’s happening. 

Here's my story before I rant on.

I am about to be 18-years-old. My fiance is 19-years-old. We've known each other for a few years, and we met my freshman year. We talked for a long time, two years maybe. We both developed feelings for each other, and a year later, I realized that I really loved him, and he loved me back. After we got together, we waited it out and we talked about marriage. He wanted to go into the Army, and of course I didn't want him to but after we talked I realized it might be the best for both of us. Financially, it would be better if we got married. We both figured that we love each other very much, and we want to do this together. So he proposed. And now in a few months we're going to get married, and then he goes into boot camp. I am beyond excited to watch us grow as a couple and maybe even start a family.

And the rant begins, have fun<3

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I'm stubborn, and my mom says it's both a blessing and sometimes a curse. I know everyone loves to voice their opinions towards me getting married at a young age, which I promote you guys to do. Sometimes, y'all need to learn to be quiet. You can't control my life with your little rants, along with you catching a sissy fit when I argue back. You guys really love ranting about marriage. You all take marriage for granted sometimes, just like some of you take love for granted.

People go into marriage thinking that if it doesn't work, you can just get a divorce. Marriage should be something permanent. A forever thing. But here you guys are, having a Plan B for something that hasn't even happened to you yet. Divorce, abortions, cutting family off. The list just goes on. When you get married, you say, "'Til death do us part," not, "'Til I get sick of you and don't want you around anymore."

I personally grow every day. I change, I mature, I learn to love things I never thought I would love. I can't stand things I used to love, I hate the color I loved last year. Time goes on, your taste changes, your style changes. But my love for the man I'm about to marry has not changed in the past five years.

Getting married does not mean your life is over. You can still go out with your friends, and after that, you can come home to the man of your dreams who loves you more than anything. Getting married doesn't mean you have to throw your whole life away to devote it to your partner. It just means you have a partner with you, someone to spend the rest of your life with.

Marrying young is something a lot of people frown upon. They say "you don't even know yourself yet, let alone someone else." Although that might be true, it's good to have someone watch you grow, someone watch you learn how to love yourself. Meanwhile, you can do the same with him, you can watch him grow as a person every day. You guys will grow as a couple, learn new things about each other every single day. How exciting is that?

If you know deep in your heart you love someone, talk to your partner, see if they feel the same way. See what they want to do and go from there.

And to all the other people who think it's dumb, to think marrying young is a sin, just shut up. If two people are head over heels for each other, and have known each other for a long time. Yeah there's gonna be bumps, but what relationship doesn't have bumps? You just gotta push through it.

You may not like the fact that people are getting married young, but let me be. If they're happy, let them be happy. Don't put your saltiness on a happy couple because YOU don't like it.

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About the Creator

Victoria Rodriguez

Engaged, Artist, Poet, I love to read, write, and draw

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