My Boyfriend Cheated on Me... Well, Not Really

It was a restful Tuesday morning when, suddenly, yelling from my roommate's room comes seeping through the walls. I look at my phone only to see—7:30 in the morning?? I think a couple thoughts of what it might be about, decide it's probably not a big deal, and attempt to go back to sleep.

LOL. That's when life threw the curveball.

As I'm trying to get the specific fluff I want out of my pillow, I feel a soft, continuing vibration. I grab my phone, and my heart drops. My boyfriend is calling me at 7:30 AM... meaning only one thing.

(Side note: The yelling in the other room was my roommate's boyfriend, who is the one that introduced my boyfriend and I.)

I knew from the moment I saw my boyfriend's (full, LOL) name pop up on my phone that the fight was between them. This isn't good. I pick up the phone and start getting yelled at like "Why am I being accused?," "He wants to fight me," and more that I just don't remember because it was a lot to take in the moment.

My boyfriend has a temper yet is the sweetest and most hilarious guy I have ever met. He warms my heart and gives me joy beyond my furthest imagination.

It turns out the fight was about my boyfriend and the other girl that people suspected he was "sexting" with. I didn't even know that people our age still sexted! My roommate's boyfriend had heard from the other girl that they were sexting, talking all the time, etc., and he simply wanted to prevent both of us from a broken heart. Not only were they talking, but she was coming to visit and stay with Chris for a night. Most people would be very uncomfortable with this, but I was cool with it. All of this being said, sure... it appears that Chris is cheating.

But there are two sides to every story, right?

Ever since my boyfriend and I started dating, I have felt secure and knew I could trust him. He is a very straightforward person and has a good head on his shoulders (he had a 3.8 with honors Magna Cum Laude).

I knew better than to go off of the "he said, she said" and went straight to the source. I asked him if he was cheating, he said no. There was obviously more explanation, such as "She tells me she hates me all the time, why would that give me a boner?" and "What time do I have to cheat with?"

I settled down and put some thought into it.

1. Anytime my boyfriend and the other girl start texting, it's usually because she starts the conversation and, more often than not, it's about problems that she is going through.
2. My boyfriend also just moved from out of state and doesn't have many friends, so it makes sense that he would continue talking to the other girl.
3. Lastly, he works ALL the EFFING time. I am not joking. If we are laying in bed together, he will pull up a work email. Watching a movie? Work email. Out around town? Work email. Yes, yes, that's bad. But I don't mind it, he's dedicated. And we surely have quality time together outside of work emails.

There are plenty of other thoughts to support his side, but those are the main ones that kept me from believing the lies. I think it's too common for relationships to become unstable based off of other people's gossip, rather than looking at the truth that is right in front of us.

If something like this happens, happened, or is happening to you, remember to keep a stable head and think through it with an unbiased point of view. Do what's best for you, but don't make a fool of yourself. Look at your partner's habits, routines, etc., to tell you the truth.

Soooo yeah, my boyfriend cheated on me... well, not really.