My Outlook

See, I know people who suffer, daily. It's hard for them to keep going, I think people need to be aware of this. Everyone hides behind a screen or just pure gossip knowing it will never get back to that person. we all know the truth, it hurts. So we just don't admit it, we know people judge us too. It is like a cloud that hangs over everyone. We all just ignore it until it gets worse and worse to the point that we don't see the point in life.

I know I have got a pretty negative outlook. But it's true. I can feel everyone nodding whilst reading this. My only issue, I don't know what we can do. It is not an easy thing to stop. You can't write it all down and give it to that person who you have said mean things about. Even if we were told to, who would really do it.

Society is messed up. Blunt & harsh. Society is messed up. We all have groups where we think we belong, however, if you asked someone how they acted at home nine out of ten times you would be surprised. That one out of ten is lying. We are all scared to show who we really are. Some of us are really weird, like the popular people. I bet the athletes have their favorite sci-fi movie, and the nerds have that one sport they could beat any athlete at. So why don't we show it? Because someone or something is telling you that you shouldn't. No one likes to admit it but we all have a degree of anxiety, and you think of all the times you've wanted to do something but haven't because you are scared of what someone will say.

Don't tell me I'm wrong. For those people who suffer badly from anxiety and depression, I don't have the advice. However, I spoke to my friends, they said it makes them feel better. But that's hard. One of the hardest things to do. If you have even the courage to do so, I respect you. If you don't, you are still amazing, still brave, and still powerful.

Although, this applies to everyone. Think back to the last time you spoke badly about or to someone. Do you know them? Not just as far as friends but as far as you know what is going on at home or even inside their heads? I'm going to go with no and if you do, give yourself the valid reason for you to think about that person that way.

Honestly, who gives you the right to talk about them that way? We all have people we don't like or who think don't fit the world's criteria. But does anyone? Do you? I know I don't but we all wish we did. Why? Why would we want to look and be like everyone else? Because that makes us the same? So then no one can judge you for being unique? I have asked myself this question countless times. I never found a good answer. I found answers that suit me.

I don't want to be different because I'm scared even my closest friends will judge me. I'm scared that they won't want to know me if I'm different from them. I'm scared. Point blank. I'm scared. I feel the only place I can truly be me is in my room. That is bad. I shouldn't be scared. Truly, what am I scared of? I know I won't lose them. They are the most important people to me, different and alike. We all have qualities that match others. Just the formula that makes us is different to everyone else. Remember that. I feel as though that is important. What do I know? I'm just trying to change the future.

We all know it needs to be done. Or your kids and their kids after that will grow up ashamed of themselves. I think it all started with social media. Posting pictures, doubting yourself based on how many likes you get, how many people comment "Stunning" or "Gorgeous" or "😍❤😍❤😍❤😍❤". You know what I mean, even just the amount of followers you have. Everyone thinks the popular people don't understand that, sometimes I agree, yet here writing this I disagree. I think they all feel it, maybe not on social media. But in their rooms. Or eating absolutely nothing and working out as often as possible, to get that response. Everyone is beautiful. Maybe even using Photoshop to alter themselves, just a little bit. Everyone wants to look like the Kardashians or those footballers because they are perfect. I tell you this now, you are too, you can look like that if you want to, I don't see the point personally. Here I go again, why look like everyone else?

I don't know if you have noticed a trend throughout this. I have, towards the end anyway. LOOKS. That is what is all about, in this day and age, I don't know anything different. I have grown up like this. I know throughout all the eras and decades bullying because of looks and gossip have terrorized people. But adults, if you can't admit it has drastically changed, and not for the better, are you truly relating to your child?

I have a piece of advice to those parents who think the kids should just get over themselves or stand up to those bullies. THAT IS NOT EASY! Talk to them, hear them out, don't just ignore it. You'll lose them one day, mentally or physically, and you will regret everything, all of those conversations you never had. Sitting there, reading this, tell me now you are too busy for this. That you have that meeting to get to or your friends have that coffee that you can't miss. Tell me that is more important than your child. If that answer is yes, your child has more problems than you think. I understand some meetings you just can't miss, but if you can't talk to them, ask another member of the family to, or take a day off. You can catch up on work, your kids' lives are not so easy.

Just advice from me: Feel free to ignore it but you'll regret it later. Even if you are convinced they are okay, talk to them.

I don't want this to seem as though only kids/teenagers feel this way. Because I'm sure adults do too. In my opinion, adults would find it easier to talk to siblings or their family by choice. I don't know, you'll have to see how that works out.

Yes, I know this is really long, but it was necessary because everyone is hiding it, hardly anyone is speaking up. The longer we hide from the truth the stronger it gets. We are like pawns on a chessboard, at the moment, we can't do anything really important. However, we can protect the people who need it from those causing the conflict. The king, he can rise and do amazing things, and these people will, with or without your support. Know that. Whatever you say will hurt them now, but I believe we only point out what we don't like about them because they are jealous, if not jealous it's because they get this sense of power over making others feel bad.

Trust me, that person you call a nerd, they will invent the latest phone that everyone wants. The person you say is weird, they have the heart of gold, they will also create your favorite game or activity. Because their imaginations are so vivid. That person you say asks too many questions, they will be the next best politician. They will help make this world the best it can be.

I tell you this now, it all starts with you. The more you do to change society, the sooner the world you really want will appear. Get off your phone, go out and do something good for the environment. Protest against fossil fuels. Volunteer at a charity. Talk to the people you love who suffer, it means the world.

I'm going to leave you with that, you know what to do. I know it is easier to say than do, but trust me once you have done, you won't want to stop there.

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