Out With the Old in With the New!

To the romantics, who over think every detail trying to make that first date perfect, to the old school kids, still waiting for that knight in shining armor, to the chivalrous people, waiting for someone to take a chance on them, times have changed in the dating world. It is so easy to be set up for failure with the new world of online dating. It's so hard to find someone genuine whilst too easy to be someone that you're not. Online dating has made cat-fishing all too common. So to those who are still holding out for the old school kind of date this is our tribute. Our "So long," if you will.

Dating will never be the same or was it ever really that movie perfect date? People are always waiting for that John Cusack moment. Everyone secretly wants to be swept off their feet like in 10 Things I Hate About You. Realistically, especially in this modern age of online dating, that just doesn't happen. It's more a swipe right swipe left kind of thing. Today's world is that of a walking contradiction, one where people only strive to have the most jaw dropping significant other but will then go and saw how fake they are for using, for example, make up or some form of cosmetic helper. It's tough for us always striving to be what society wants us to be while trying to maintain an ounce of our true weird selves.

Maybe the trick to dating is to not date at all, at least not on dating apps. I find dating apps are a black hole of self destruction. They give you this false happiness every time you match with someone but as soon as you hit a plateau you lose what little self esteem you had. It’s a cycle: you get the app, have hope, lose hope, delete app, then forget why you deleted it and it starts all over. Maybe instead of cycling ourselves on this endless roller coaster ride. we should just put ourselves out into the real world more.

Be a part of the community, put your best foot forward, and in this New Year try something different. Even if you don't meet the love of your life, you might still make some friendships and definitely memories to last you a lifetime.

I have met so many people in my life time and I expect to meet so many more before my time here is through. I strongly believe that every failed relationship is for a reason. Every person you met is meant to happen for a reason. You either take something from someone or they take something from you. A lesson is learned in every trial and error.

I know firsthand putting yourself out there is one of, if not the most difficult thing to do because no one likes rejection of any kind. I also know that if you seclude yourself and expect the world to come to you, you may be waiting an awful long time. I can honestly say I struggle with “If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen,” and “If you want something, go and get it.” Honestly the world is what you make of it, but my best advice I can offer is that if you keep waiting for the right moment, or perfect mate to find you, you’ll end up missing out on the adventure of life. So go get em’. What are you waiting for? Tell that person you have a crush on them, Quit that job for something you’ve always dreamed of doing, take a dance class, and travel more. Most of all, spread happiness and wonder one adventure at a time!