Patience in a Relationship

To make a relationship work, you have to be willing to do things that you would not normally do, and if you are in love with your partner, those things may be effortless for you to do. But realistically, sometimes you may not be very keen to do them; that’s a relationship, everything isn’t always rosy. Sometimes when we start a relationship or are about to, we already have the “perfect” relationship in mind, we know how we want our partner to be, we know what we want them to do, and what we will do for them. In other words, we’ve already created a relationship in our minds before we even begin it in real life. When we do begin a relationship and things aren't the way we thought, we get disappointed, and this very well happened to me. It’s the expectations we set for other people that creates room for disappointment. If you don’t expect it, you can't be disappointed by the lack of it.

Patience plays an important role in a relationship. We have to be willing to wait things out and watch them progress naturally. Because being in love is a steady progression of emotions and so many things. We can’t expect our partners to have X, Y, and Z right off the bat. Yes, there are the born romantics out there—I like to think I'm one—who are ready to do it all, who go above and beyond for the ones they love. They are ready to buy you the fancy clothes, take you out multiple times a month, bring you breakfast in bed, hold your hands, stroke your hair... so on and so forth. We can’t all be romantics. The world would be very boring and cringe if you ask me—urggh! For those who are not romantics, some romantic attributes can be learned, so don’t give up on them or yourself just because it’s not there in the start. If you want something, say it. I know sometimes us women suck at this, and we expect or partners to read our minds. No honey, they aren’t mind-readers, I had to learn that in the course of my relationship. Now, if I want my hair stroked at night, I'm going to tell you I want my hair stroked. I found myself a partner who was not the world's best man—mehn! It aggravated me before, but with good time I told myself that I can teach him how to be more romantic. I voiced what I wanted, and the changes that have happened over the years are AMAZING! He is not the same man I met, honestly.

So, if you want a butt rub, say you want that. Have patience and you’ll soon start getting them constantly. 🙂 But seriously, relationship is a progression, so try to have patience with your partners. Voice what you want, don’t expect things when a person has not been groomed in a type of way, and you’ll be happier with yourself and your partner. Groomed in the sense that if you met him and he wasn’t the type to go to parties, don’t expect him to go to parties with you all the time. Ask him, don’t expect a yes soon, but keep asking him, and eventually he’ll join you for a party or two. Patience, people. Patience.