Real Relationships, Where Are They?

Relationships today are not the same as what I saw growing up. As I grew up, relationships was more about love and it led to marriage. When problems came, they knew how to talk it out. People knew their value. They never settled. Marriages even lasted till death. My grandparents are a great example. I watched them because they inspired me. They were married till death. My grandfather died first, then my grandmother died two years later. I can tell they loved each other.

Today, relationships are so different. People have different reasons for getting into relationships. One of them is, they don't want to be alone. The other is they want to be loved but sometimes the love is not real. Some relationships never lead to marriage. People get comfortable being in a relationship for 10-20 years and never marry, but in some states, they believe in common law marriages. I don't see how people can be in a relationship for that long and never marry. Relationships today are so backwards.

I was taught you never have sex or live with the person before marriage. When you go out, you have a chaperone so nothing happens. He can't come to your house and you can't go to his. I always thought it was crazy but I understand now. One problem is, sex can happen, children are born out of wedlock every day. Relationships today are not out of love. Some of it is out of convenience. There is no love. People don't stay in marriages long. Apparently the shortest marriage was 72 hours. People don't take marriages seriously and that's a problem. The sad thing is, people get married and find out they are with the wrong person and start hating. Either we miss the red flags or we ignore them.

A lot of marriages today have become abusive. Either the man is abusive, or the woman is. You also have women that were abused becoming the the abuser themselves. It's becoming very prevalent. Domestic violence is ver prevalent today than it was back in the 70's. Women are dying by the hands of their abusers. Even children are dying as well.

As for me, I married very young and it didn't last. I didn't marry because I loved him, I married because someone I knew told me too. Don't get me wrong, I loved him but wasn't sure if I wanted to marry him. I wished I never have because he became abusive. I was one of those who ignored the red flags. I have learned my lesson. My marriage lasted no more than a month. I couldn't stay with an abusive man. No woman should.

When it comes to relationships, we should really take our time. We need to make sure, not only do we love them, but are they the right people for us. As for me God has to be number one priority. I still believe in marriage. We have to do it right. Seek counseling before marriage. You would be surprised at what you find out in counseling. We all should do this. It will save us a lot of unwanted trouble of marrying the wrong person. For me I know I made a mistake, not only marrying young, but marrying the wrong person. I hope there will be more loving relationships leading to marriage and less relationships leading to nowhere.

Are there any real relationships?