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Send Nudes!

Does a relationship need this?

By Chimdi ChimePublished 5 years ago 3 min read
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In this current generation the phrase “send nudes”, has become a slogan. It doesn’t matter who you are, how old you are, male or female, "send nudes," can be said by anyone, but I think many would agree that men are more likely to, and are the ones who say this more. And speaking as a woman, a lot of us women have had their fair share of RANDOM! Guys ask them to send nudes. A dude does not even know you, never met you, has said barely two words to you, and the next thing he thought in his wonderful mind to say was, "send nudes," why! Why! Why! I honestly ask why, because I can’t even begin to think of the thought process in these guys' minds. I think for many it might just be pure lustful thought’s, because a guy thinks a girl is hot and wants to get his hard on. But I still don’t understand why, because there is porn, free porn, why not use that. I believe for those random send nudes, the sender typically has no respect for the receiver, why would you think someone you don’t know would do that, I know there are girls and males out there that can offer that type of service on social media, but I am speaking from the other side, people who are not into that business or into that type of stuff. Or maybe, after looking through a girls’ profile and she has revealing pictures, such as bikini pictures and perhaps portrays herself as an “Instagram model” the word we use these days, you think, just maybe she is into that. NO, it’s not okay, whether or not she is, it's just outright disrespectful to ask that if you don’t know the person, male or female.

Now, since I think asking a person you barely know to send nudes is disrespectful, how about asking someone you do know, your girlfriend or your boyfriend. But we are going to look at it from the perspective of a boyfriend asking his girlfriend to send nudes. Is it okay to ask that, Yes! It is, if you have both established that in the course of your relationship, you both understand that the other person likes that, send away boys and girls, you do you. But what if he has been asking and you have been reluctant, I want you to STOP! DROP! And ROLL! To put out the fire. Just kidding, but I do want you to stop, and think about it. Ask yourself questions like, why is he asking me this, do I want to do it, am I comfortable with it? Talk to him, understand why he wants it, now if you have already established that you don’t like it, and are not comfortable with it, here is where you should be careful. Because, when you talk to him, he will most likely say, “aren’t you my girlfriend? This is normal.” HOLD UP! Being his girlfriend does not give him the right to anything that you don’t stamp your approval on. Do you see a ring on your finger, No, then that’s all it is, No right. A girl shouldn’t be pressured to do what she doesn’t want, hell anyone shouldn’t, some people may think this only applies to sex in a relationship, but it applies to everything in a relationship. Because sometimes, sending nudes, to the guy, means you compensating for not having sex. Don’t let him win because he has made it a norm, for a girlfriend to send nudes to his boyfriend. I was in a relationship, in which I was that reluctant girl, who ended up giving in and not being too happy about it. You own your body; you should be able to decide what happens to it.

Sure, a relationship requires compromise, you both should be able to reach one, without him insisting that the only way he is going to be happy is if you send nudes. I was told once in a past relationship that porn didn’t do it for them, just me. Till today, I am not sure to take that as a compliment or not, but it’s still very funny to me. This had to do with sending nudes and all that mess. But nobody should feel obligated to send nudes to their partner, of whom they are in a relationship with, even if you did at some point, if you don’t want to, you should not have to.

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Chimdi Chime

I am a mind wanderer who wants to turn my mind travels into a reality. I am a strong woman with lot's to learn. I love to express myself in so many different ways, from my experiences and what I have learned, so I hope you love my stories.

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