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It's very easy to figure out whether a girl has gotten emotionally attached to a guy. As women, we tend to wear our hearts on our sleeves and pride ourselves on being open books. Men, on the other hand, tend to try to hide their feelings for as long as they can.
Clearly, this can make it hard for us ladyfolk to know where we stand. Luckily, veterans in the dating scene can offer advice, and these signs are often surefire indicators that he really is emotionally invested in you.
He calls you, texts you, and messages you all the time.
Guys have a tendency of focusing on the things that they care the most about. If they care about you and are emotionally invested in you, they will make time for you. The most common way they'll do it is by taking time out of their day and keeping in contact with you.
He goes the extra mile for you.
By the time you're 20, you already know what most typical guys will be willing to do for a girl. They may be willing to buy you dinner or a Valentine's Day present, but that's about it. If the guy that you're seeing is showering you with gifts that he can't afford, it's very likely that he's extremely emotionally invested in you and is trying to make it known through his actions.
He gives you a look that's both happy and teary-eyed.
You know that look you get when you're looking at something that you've always wanted, and finally have? That's the look a man gives when he's deeply in love with a woman. It's a look of bliss, adoration, and at the same time, admiration. That look is one that can't easily be replicated, even by top actors in Hollywood.
It's rare to actually see a guy give this look in person, but once you see it, it'll become unmistakeable for the rest of your life.
He opens up.
For guys, actually trusting someone enough to confide in them and vent is a rare thing indeed. Most men, whether they will admit it or not, crave this on a level that words can't express. If he feels close enough to you to drop his guard, he's not only attached to you - he's in love, baby.
He wants to commit to you.
You know what kind of man wants commitment from a girl? The kind of man who is seriously enamored with the girl he wants to commit to. If you were to ask the vast majority of men out there, they'd tell you that they aren't afraid of commitment. Rather, they're petrified of committing to the wrong girl.
If the guy you're seeing is pushing for commitment, it's a sign that he's emotionally attached to the point that he thinks you're "the One," or at the very least, better than any other girls around him.
He makes a point of trying to bond with you.
A man who's emotionally attached is a man who will do what he can to get closer and closer to you. A guy who's attached to you will want to go out to eat with you, spend nights with you, and just hang out with you. Any opportunity you give him to bond with you will be one he'll take up with joy.
He sticks up for you.
A man who is emotionally attached to a girl will defend her, even when the people who are talking smack about her are his own family. Why? Because men, when they're emotionally invested in a girl, instinctually do what they can to protect the girl they love.
If your boytoy makes a point of standing up for you if he hears people badmouthing you, he's emotionally invested. It's just that simple.
He makes a point of having you meet his friends or family.
A guy who's emotionally attached to someone (or something) will always flaunt that person (or object) to others. This is why you see guys who are gearheads flaunting their Maseratis, and why you will see guys who are really into a girl show her off to friends and family.
Moreover, this is a good indicator that he sees you as long term material. If a man didn't see you as a long term girl, he wouldn't introduce you to anyone.
Lastly, he doesn't bail when things get bad.
Men who aren't emotionally attached to you will have little problem dumping you the moment that things start to go sour. This is why so many guys bail when they find out the girl they're dating lost their job, or why many guys won't stick around if they find out the girl they like is dealing with personal drama.
A man who really cares about you will stay around and be there for you, even when things could probably be better for him if he were to go solo.