Single Life

Here is the thing about being single...it's pretty great! I mean it. I am only 25and I do just about anything I want. I "just about" because, well, I don't do illegal stuff. (Mama didn't raise no fool.)

Don't get me wrong, love is great. Being loved and loving, is an awesome thing. These days I look around and see too many couples that fight or get married and divorced in a year. I'll admit, that is one reason why I am single. I don't want that to be me. If I get married, it will be to one person for the rest of my life.

So, being single for me, at this time in my life, is a good thing. Gives me time to know what I actually want out of a partner. Let's me know what I don't want in a partner. I can be picky when it comes to being with anyone even though I go for a connection when it comes to dating. I can't help it. I know what I want. I won't settle for less.

I watched my mom go through a couple of boyfriends and they never turned out right. I think it was the lack of communication and she didn't really have good taste in men. It wasn't her fault. The guys she went with were just idiots. Though my dad, I wouldn't call him an idiot. There was just a lot of baggage with him. He was from Mexico living in America and I do believe he was undocumented. (He passed away last year.)

I'm not trying to say couples are crap. I am just saying if you are in a relationship, there are rules and things you need to talk about before going or getting serious.

So, SINGLE LIFE, I do love it. I am happy with it. I get to write my books. I get to be with my family. I take care of my family. Which is a big part of my life. I get to go to places without having to say "Hey babe, I am going to so and so."

I guess if you look at it from a sweet point of view in a relationship, it is adorable. But for me, I just like going and not having to be like, "I'll be back at so and so time."

I'm no prude! I promise! I'm not saying you shouldn't be in a relationship. I just feel like there is a point in your life that you should be single for a while. Evaluate what you are doing with your life, who you are, and what you want. Take time to yourself and become the person you want to be. A person I hope is happy when they are single.

There is a difference between being lonely and being alone. I like being alone. I love my ME TIME. Do I get lonely? Sure. I think everyone has those waves of feelings of loneliness. But I feel like the way you get through that is to get to know yourself and be single while doing it.

Go explore, learn something new, learn something new about yourself, and do the things you've always wanted to do. Basically, I am saying GROW.

Grow into the person you want to be. Don't let people make you feel like you are less just because you don't have someone by your side. There is someone by your side, it is YOU.

So, live the single life! Be happy! Do things that will make you grow! Don't let anyone make you feel bad about not having someone! I promise you that you won't regret it.

Take it from someone who was in a relationship from junior year in high school to the beginning of last year. Has it been hard? Yes. But I am growing every day because I do what I want. I am learning who I am and what I want. Which is a PLUS. I say #SingleLife!

How to be single?

1. Treat yourself.
2. Self care.
3. Love yourself.
4. Be yourself.
5. Explore.
6. Do what you've always wanted to do.
7. Grow.
8. Find what you don't like in a partner.
9. Find what you do like in a partner.
10. Be HAPPY being SINGLE!

-J