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Sleeping with Someone on the First Date

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By Lena BaileyPublished 5 years ago 3 min read
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I'm not a prude by any means, I promise. I just want to help my readers through dating and kink. There are people who are not interested in relationships and that's fine, keep doing your thing. If you are sleeping around, be smart and protect yourself, although that maybe a no duh to most people. The thing about it is that, if you are looking for a relationship, sleeping with someone on the first date could hurt that. I had a guy friend who slept with a girl on the first date. After he drove her home, he regretted it because she said something that offended or scared him and she was overwhelming to him. So he regretted it and she felt used. If you don't want to feel that way, why do it? You're a grown ass woman, tell the guy no. If you do sleep with him and he makes you feel used, the person you really should blame is yourself. You could have said no and avoided all of that. Not sleeping with someone on the first date is the only way to save yourself from hurt feelings and other issues. Sex complicates things sometimes and it may get in the way of getting to know someone.

There's also the added thing of you do not know this person. What if they have an STD? What if they took off the condom during the act? Scumbag guys actually do that now. There's so many things that can go wrong. Someone says it was a great ice breaker, but when you are looking for a relationship, I would say no it's not. There's better ice breakers than that, like getting to know their favorite things and who they are as a person. But that's the problem with some people, they don't to put the work into anything, including getting to know someone and starting a new relationship. That's not cute or clever, it's lazy.

Men are refusing to wear condoms and now they are taking them off during the act, which I don't understand. It's stupid and dangerous. You don't know this person. What happens if you get her pregnant or you catch something? Also, no matter what, she may get attached or feel used.

If you truly want a relationship, try saying no and see what happens; if they truly want to be with you they will respect your decision. If you are not looking for at relationship then go ahead, just please be safe. I tell a guy no and they pass on me, because of that usually. I'm convinced most men don't want a relationship, they want sex. They don't take girls out and they have the mentality, "why date when I can just get sex?" Some girls don't want relationships either. I think part of the reason people give up on relationships is because it's too hard and they've been burned too many times before. I also think people don't want to put in the work that it takes to be in a relationship anymore. People think relationships are too hard and take too much work, so they just don't even try. Yes, relationships are hard and take work, but they are so worth it with the right person. I spent years dating the wrong men and I finally found a guy who looks at sex the same way I do. It is possible to find a man who wants you for you and not sex. To him, sex would be a plus to him. This guy is out there for you, I promise.

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Lena Bailey

Georgia born writer. Specializing in dating and true crime

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