Sometimes Love Is Not Enough & The Road Gets Tough

Yes, in the gracious and holy words of Lana Del Rey why is it that love sometimes can become unfulfilling?

It’s a hard and painful realisation but there comes a point where relationships don’t feel the same anymore. You and your partner don’t share happiness the way you used to, the way you would like it to be. You are wrapped up and confused in all emotions and in a whirlwind of desperation. How can it be fixed, is it worth saving, is the love there anymore, why are things not the same?

In life, people will come and go and everyone is part of your beautiful picture you are creating. It is between you and your special partner to share experiences together. Sometimes it works and sadly sometimes it does not.

With the eb and flow and the constant fluctuation of life and its events no relationship is ever guaranteed. As people evolve, change, and experience new things so does your relationship, and that is an inevitable force called destiny.

Simple Signs:

1. Unhappiness Plain unhappiness. You feel down and uninspired. It’s nasty and you’ll want to do anything to change this.
2. Boredom Doing the same things over and over again with them. There is no variation in action or events, it’s boredom, and before you know it, it’s a rut. Rut’s are disasterous and restrictive, it’s time to break out of it.
3. Taking Each Other For Granted Desire, fire and the spark, it’s been extinguished. You’re so comfortable and the effort is becoming less and less. Oh gosh, please save it, you need to be on fire again.
4. Not Making The Time Laziness. It’s such a killer. If you don’t feel like time and effort is being put in, then comes the neglect and out goes the love. It’s any excuse, I’m busy at work, I’m too tired, I don’t want to go there, I can’t afford it, It’s too much effort for me, I’m with my friends. Everyone has their stuff to do, everyone gets it. But when your relationship is constantly in the back seat with little effort put in, the drifting will start.
5. Spending Time Is A Chore When once spending time with them was the highlight of life, you couldn’t wait, you’d leap off a cliff just to see them at the bottom. But now the appeal isn’t there and when you do spend time it’s actually not time well spent. Ouch.

Quick, Let's Fix It:

1. Communicate Without this, the relationship is unsalvageable. Sit down and talk it out. Don’t distance, this is also a dead end. Talk, tell them how you feel. Just talk. Chances are they feel the same. Never accuse or used statements like “you don’t” “you never” “you always”. You owe this to yourself and it’s only fair to them. Discuss all your worries in depth, and if you have to get emotional you should let it out. Be super honest, let your ego and pride go, after all this is your heart on the line.
2. Give Space You may decide that’s its time to have some space, so you can both figure out what it is you want and need out of this. You can still be in contact, and if you decide to not to it is not the time to go on a partying, single, rampage. This behaviour during space periods are never going to get you closer. Take a healthy amount of distance or time apart. Decide on your terms of this period and live this period respectfully.
3. Take Time For YourselfEnjoy your life even though this influx is occurring. Go out with friends, treat yourself, socialise, do your favourite activities, be goal oriented, get fit, go for a adventure, life your life exactly the way you want it. When you do this happiness will be abundant and your partner will notice that. When you are happy with your side of life, you will have so much to share and you will be the best version of you.
4. Remind Each Other Tell each other how much you love them. Tell them why you love them, why you fell in love, why they are the person for you. Tell them all the things you've been too scared to say recently. Why wait, if you have these feelings they deserve to be reminded, no matter how old the bond it's necessary. It brings the glue back.
5. Try AgainWhen you have both established what it is that needs to change and it is amicable, if at first you don't succeed, then you can dust yourself off and try it again. Start slow, be calm and have patience it's not going to bee 100 percent overnight.
6. The Sad Part: The Breakup “I don’t really wanna break up we got it going on.” Woah, facing this is not ideal but sometimes it just doesn’t work. If you decide you aren’t going to be able to get on the same page it’s the best to set each other free. If you have exhausted all options in trying to strengthen yourselves and the love still isn’t enough — it is time.

A relationship is one of life's projects. To get the top success and achieve the best grade there needs to be effort, attention, care, and passion. If you really care about each other it is always worth trying save. Don't make rash decisions that you will regret, and always be kind to each other no matter how tough the road gets. Love is beautiful and love should be free.