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People of NOLA
I remember when I arrived at NOLA the first place, where I stopped was near the French Quarter where I met my host Xavier. He was neither old nor young man with a bald head, lean body, and cautious eyes. When he showed me my room I was in awe. It was the most comfortable place I have seen so far. I even had my TV. He made me feel very welcome. He was comfortable to host me and looking at how neat his house was you would guess he ran an Airbnb. He later told me he even built a separate entrance just for himself so the guest could feel alone and he could remain in the comfort of his place. Once, a couple of girls wanted to allure him to their room after a fun night out in NOLA but he refused. He was rather particularly professional about endeavors like that. I respected that about him. I took a shower to relax after a really hot day riding along the Mississippi River. Xavier prepared a Charcuterie board with figs, cheese, and meat to go with beer and invited his neighbor Anton to join us, which Anton gladly accepted. We waited for him on a porch, where X told me a bit about himself and his experience of leaving France and living in the US. He even told me how he was proposed to by his last girlfriend. I’ve never met anyone like that before. He refused her proposal. I asked him, “Why?” He told me he was afraid that one day they may have a fight and she would say:” You only married me cuz you wanted documents!” His eyes looked into the distance remembering that episode. Somehow It felt like he came back to it from time to time wondering. He’s also told me about him wanting to go on a long bicycle tour, similar to my experience. I got excited and told him that he better get ready and go. He sat there and said: “Someday.” I was slightly shocked. I nearly forgot how people can talk themselves out of anything until that moment. The garage door of the house across the street started opening up. Then we saw Anton pulling in his old white SUV. When he came out of his car he told us he would be back after he took a shower. Anton was a young lawyer, whose dad raised him by sending him to a law school, which gave him the life he lives now. He sat next to me and told us about his day at a court and his client who was getting a divorce. He came across as pretty open and talkative and likes to paint in his spare time, showing us some of his works over a beer. He had an eye. X invited me to a dinner at his friend’s house the next day. At the time it could seem mundane, while to me such an invitation felt simply special and exciting. I was honored and looked forward to it. I didn’t say anything about X procrastinating his dreams, I simply felt like it wasn’t my place to keep pushing him. He had to do it himself.
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Once upon a time, in the intricate folds of the human brain, a captivating dance unfolded—a dance of memories that shaped the very essence of an individual's existence. Imagine, if you will, the symphony of neurons orchestrating the grand spectacle of memory, where the past intertwined with the present in a delicate ballet of forgetfulness and creation.
Tallal JafriPublished 4 months ago in HumansNurturing Positive Relationships for Lasting Bonds
INTRODUCTION Developing and maintaining a connections is an essential part of being human. Our prosperity and well-being are significantly impacted by the caliber of our relationships with people, both personally and professionally. This investigation will focus on constructive methods of fostering positive relationships, looking at important ideas and doable tactics that support the development and maintenance of deep bonds
Victory GodknowsPublished 4 months ago in HumansHow to Thrive in Solitude
In a world where the pursuit of love and relationships often takes center stage, the art of being single tends to get overshadowed. I certainly wish I knew this art years ago. It’s taken a while to gain some mastery.
The Breatharian BloggerPublished 4 months ago in HumansResilience
In the vast tapestry of humanity, there exists a resilient thread that weaves through time, embodying grace, courage, and an unwavering spirit – the strength of a woman. This strength is a force that transcends mere physical might, emanating from the core of the feminine spirit. It is a strength born not of brute force, but of a profound resilience that withstands the storms of life with an elegance that is uniquely feminine.
Rit JOSEPHPublished 4 months ago in HumansThe Emotional Toll of Bed Bug Infestation
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Hannah TettehPublished 4 months ago in HumansWhat should people do to determine the direction of their lives when they are confused and have no direction?
Some proclaim: One must strive, for effort can alter destiny. Yet others declare: Effort is futile; the paramount task is to transform one's mindset. Some advocate: Do not confine yourself to books alone; engage in practical pursuits. Conversely, some assert: Avoid blind experimentation; immerse yourself in theoretical learning. There exists a multitude of conflicting viewpoints daily, and it's believed that many have become lost amid the cacophony. As soon as one embraces a perspective, it is swiftly dismantled by another, leaving one bewildered about whom to trust. In Han Han's "No Man's Land," he articulates: Heard countless truths, yet still unable to navigate this life successfully. One cause is merely hearing without enduring action. Another cause is failing to recognize oneself; heedless endeavors incongruent with one's principles lead to suffering. Consider an introverted individual who thrives in solitude, suited for solitary, creative pursuits. Yet, if compelled to feign extroversion in salesmanship, engaging in social revelry, they would endure immense distress. Additionally, nutritionists advocate abundant consumption of vegetables and fruits for health benefits. However, for someone with a cold constitution, excessive intake exacerbates their condition. Hence, without self-awareness, adhering to certain principles and advice can prove detrimental. Aristotle once asserted: "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom." Our urgent task is to comprehend ourselves, as nothing surpasses the importance of self-awareness. Recognizing one's strengths and weaknesses, capitalizing on unique talents, epitomizes a truly fulfilling life. Self-awareness serves as life's elixir, while ignorance of oneself acts as life's poison. A line from "3 Idiots" encapsulates it well: "Do you know why I'm ranked first? Because I love mechanics; engineering is my passion. Do you know your passion? Consider Michael Jackson's father forcing him into boxing, or boxing champion Ali's father insisting he sing. How terrifying are the consequences? Bruce Lee, in "The Tao of Gung Fu," also emphasizes: To alter our current state, we must first recognize our true nature. Whether it's presenting a superficial facade to appear unique or genuinely transforming within, without self-awareness, true change is unattainable. Ultimately, those who achieve self-realization are those with a profound understanding of themselves. Without self-awareness, one is akin to a headless fly, careening aimlessly with no direction. Life poses three crucial questions that demand answers: Who am I? Where do I come from? Where am I headed? Whoever can answer these three questions is a true philosopher. Tang Sanzang always says: "I, a monk, come from the East, Tang Dynasty, heading to the West to bow to the Buddha and seek scriptures." Undoubtedly, Tang Sanzang is an authentic philosopher. Many may dislike him, finding him verbose and seemingly lacking prowess, but he truly knows himself. He understands his purpose, harbors a steadfast goal, and eventually succeeds. However, for most of us, self-awareness is a formidable challenge. No one can fully comprehend themselves, and it's unrealistic to expect quick self-realization. Nevertheless, we can commence this journey by heeding the advice of comic artist Cai Zhizhong: Take two A4 sheets of paper; on the first, list what you like and dislike. On the second, detail your strengths and weaknesses. Then, select something you both like and excel at, pursue it relentlessly, and success is inevitable. Self-awareness is a lifelong endeavor, and we can take it one step at a time.
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11 Steps to Rebuilding Trust in Broken Relationships
Let's face it, there are other things besides traffic in Lagos that might make you feel stuck and irritated. Even the strongest relationships can have bumps on the road that erode the basis of trust. Rebuilding trust may be difficult—whether it's because of a whispered secret, a broken promise, or a thoughtless error. It might be like trying to cross the Third Mainland Bridge without a map. But do not worry, tired traveller! Reviving your relationship has a road plan that is paved with empathy, candour, and a lot of (strong) coffee.
Chinedum JohnPublished 4 months ago in HumansSmile please.
In the heart of a bustling city, where the skyscrapers reached for the heavens and the streets echoed with the hurried footsteps of people lost in their own worlds, there lived a man named Richard. Richard was a diligent worker, a middle-aged soul who had surrendered his days and nights to the relentless demands of his job. His face, once filled with warmth and laughter, had now become a canvas painted with exhaustion and sorrow.
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Bellart StudioPublished 4 months ago in HumansDaring
In the heart of a cobbled city, where shadows stretched like whispers and secrets danced in the gaslight, lived two friends: Eira, a wisp of a girl with eyes that held the glint of mischief, and Finn, a lanky boy with a grin that dared the world to challenge him. Their covenant of common goals and bold risks united them, and with every journey, they weaved a new fabric of carefree youth.
Iftikhar AkramPublished 4 months ago in Humans