The Art of Being Single

Second to how old are you, "why are you single?" is the least favorite question I get asked constantly. What is the obsession with relationships I often wonder. Truth be told, being single should be worn like a badge and honoured. Instead it seems, it’s frowned upon, like it’s a bad thing. Yes, I know those people in relationships sometimes wish to be single, but the desire soon passes at the thought of being alone.

Imagine if people viewed you the same whether in a relationship or not, how great would that be? Well, whether they do or not, here are some reasons why you will view it that way yourself.

The first and best thing about being single is that there is absolutely nothing wrong with it! Secondly, you are available to meet another single person who could be the one that changes your status for good. But best of all, you have all the time and space to do whatever the heck you want. And, did you know that you do most of your personal growth as a single person? Because, as we all know, being single is not easy, it is hard work. First of all, dealing with all your coupled friends and your family who want you to be coupled is extremely exhausting. If you are the one who was dumped, that can bring on a whole other set of issues to deal with, like why and what’s wrong with me? Well, sometimes we may never know why, and who really cares? It’s just one person's opinion and unless we reunite with that person, it doesn’t always matter now does it, because life goes on and eventually so do we. All in good time, they say, time heals all wounds. And, you should know, how long it takes to get over the end of a relationship is different for everyone whether you do the dumping or not.

Being single is a time for reflection and personal growth. The kind you can only do when single, and I think it’s the best kind, because it’s all about you. Sometimes in relationships we can become someone we are not or behave like a different person. When alone, we have the opportunity for growth and strength of character.

While single, you will be faced with nothing but yourself, so make the best of this time. Become a stronger individual by embracing your aloneness. Get to know yourself better, your wants and needs, so when you do meet someone, you are sure of what you are looking for, what you want, and will not accept less. Once you get over any hurt or pain caused by another person, you will realize you deserve better, and there is a better suited person out there waiting and wanting to meet you as well.

So in the meantime, while you are single, you have the ability to go wherever you want; do whatever you like, and make choices without having to consult another person or be concerned about their feelings, etc. Some people make big moves when they are single, like career changes; relocations or checking things off the bucket list. And, we all hear stories about people who randomly have life changing experiences while doing these things, like it’s meant to be. Well, everything happens for a reason as they say, even being single.

Embrace your single status as the true gift that it is and remember there are times when non-single people wish they were, but aren’t. How liberating and envious being single really is! Congratulations for being single it’s hard work and rewarding!