The Art of Giving No F****

Come into my mind today, as I take you into my world for just a few moments. Today I want to give you the skills to make you more attractive to your friends, potential romantic partners, and family. I am here to fight for the case that the more that you seem to want these connects, the less that they will come to you. I will give you 7 steps to keep people coming to you, and wanting to be around you. You don't have to be alone anymore. You do not have to rely on be-friending your books or celebrity crushes in that Netflix show you are binging any longer:

1.) If someone texts or calls you, be as short as possible.

If you seem like you are desperate for someone's time and attention, then other people will subconsciously feel that they have power over you, and they will retract from you. So, you need to be short, and you need to seem like you are busy, but are WILLING to share your "busy" schedule with someone. They will wonder, "wow... Megan is really busy... she's so successful, so many people and activities are consuming her time."

2.) Tell people that you are doing work on yourself; whether that be doing a skills training, watching an educational documentary or learning an instrument.

People don't want to be around someone who is just sitting around waiting for opportunities to come to them, there is an whole universe inside of your computer or phone to learn everything from a Arabic, to Chinese, or to how to become an organic chemistry Master. People will want to be around someone who is enhancing themselves.

3.) Don't change your personality for anyone that you meet.

This one is aimed for the people that like to "people please." People are attracted to other people that are not ashamed to be themselves. If you are sarcastic, warm, and observant be you to the mailman, your roommate, and to the cashier at Pizza Hut. If you continue to show your best features then people will get more comfortable with you, and they WILL miss you when you are gone. Give it a try: Don't text your "potential romantic partner" for a few days, and see if she/he texts back. Make sure these exchanges are BALANCED, but like I said above, be interested, but be SHORT. This gives the sense that they should be WORTHY of your time.

4.) Make a big change in your appearance.

Although I am not endorsing that you get breast enhancement surgery, or replace your entire wardrobe with catsuits, I do think that getting that tattoo that you've wanted, cutting your hair, buying more polished shoes/clothes, and putting more time into your skincare and nailcare will make you feel better, and it will make you appear that you are bold. You don't appear to be so old fashioned or too rigid if you take a chance on your appearance that may be very different from your "normal self." From experience more people will speak to you, and as you get more comfortable in your new look, you will develop confidence.

5.) Don't be so eager to make connections by giving smiles or excessive eye contact.

Also from experience, do not seem to be so available that it is borderline desperate, "don't force your friendly." Be chill, and stay focused on your priorities, and people will come to you. They will wonder about you, and what is on your mind, and who you are if you seem to not be needed. It is strange, but the more standoffish you are, the more people will check on you, and want you.

6.) If you are texting your romantic partner or friend end the conversation first.

When you end the conversation, you seem to have the authority in the relationship, you make her/him wonder why you need to end the conversation, what you are doing, and who it is with. You are in charge, and that is very attractive. You leave the other person wanting more, or with time to think about the great conversation you had, and excited for your next encounter.

7.) Love on yourself.

This can happen everyday, give yourself space to just be with your thoughts, to get your affairs in order, and to enjoy your hobby or studying deeply. If you are always busy, then it is hard to relax, then it is hard to sleep, and do other things like reading, meditating, or focusing comfortably. Be in the moment with your partner or yourself. You have the power to fill up your self-love cup every single day. Be gentle with yourself. When you treat yourself gently, other people will be more kind and see you in your best light.

I will end with a quote that I got from an Breakup App called Mend that sends me texts each day, this goes out to all of the single folks:

"Your relationship status does not change the fact that you are innately whole, beautiful and worthy of love."

Much Love to all of my readers <3