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The Best 7 Online Dating Tips for Beginners

In order to make the most of your experience, here are seven tips for novice online daters.

If you're new to Internet dating, but giving serious consideration to signing up to a dating site like this, you might have some misgivings. After all, you're about to enter a whole new area, with the possibility of connecting with a diverse range of potential partners.

Stand out from the crowd

A good tip for beginners when it comes to your profile is to treat this like an application or CV you wish to send to apply for your dream job. You want to give other site users a clear and concise impression that, out of all the other personals they'll browse through, yours indicates an interesting and exciting individual who they’d love to get to know better. So spend some time composing your description, as well as choosing a flattering image, which shows you in your best light.

Ensure you stay committed

There can be a temptation to lose heart if things aren't going your way with online dating. But it's important to regard this process as a long-term commitment, so rather than dipping in and out of your dating account, and getting disillusioned if you haven't met the ‘right' person within a short space of time, be prepared for the fact you'll most likely need to shop around for some time before striking it lucky.

Utilize this convenience medium

Any free dating site is such an easy and straightforward way of reaching out for a potential partner. You can download app versions of your favorite website straight to your mobile device, allowing you to take your dating platform with you wherever you happen to be. Why not relieve the boredom of your daily train or tube commute by sending messages to prospective dates?

Honesty is the best policy

When you're engaging with other site users, it's much better to be honest and aboveboard in your communications, rather than trying to invent aspects of your character, or stretch the truth to a breaking point. At some point, you are going to be meeting face-to-face, and really getting to know more about each other, and at this moment any lies you've been peddling will quickly start to unravel.

Don't reveal too much

Think of meeting someone for a first date in the offline world. Would you be impressed by someone who just sat there and described every aspect of their life and personality, in great detail? Or would you prefer it if the prospect of finding out about a potential partner was more of an exercise in peeling back a series of intriguing layers? There's always something to be said about holding back on certain aspects of your character, especially if you're harboring bigger secrets for which there will be a time and a place for a reveal—but not during your early get-togethers.

Stay relaxed

When you're getting to know another site user, try and adopt a level-headed approach. This goes for however you're actually interacting, whether you're joining the group discussion in a chat room, or sending someone direct messages. The golden rule: stay cool. Other daters will be more drawn to someone who appears to be in control, rather than overly excitable.

Don't invest everything in this

Finally, one of the most important online dating tips is to exercise caution when embarking on this pastime. Much as dating sites have a phenomenal success rate in terms of matching singles, don't look upon this method of connecting as the be-all and end-all. Always keep one eye open for opportunities arising in other walks of life.