The Chase or The Kill

Men can be very different kinds of animals when it comes to love. The chase is a thrill. Other animals love their kill, probably the chase as well, but for sure the kill. You don't see the lion chasing a fox, then go home to his pack, and be like, yeah, I needed some legwork today. No! I was in a relationship for a short time, where my partner, I believe, was only there for the chase. If you don’t understand what the chase is, it’s when a person pursues someone romantically, with the intention of being that person’s boyfriend or girlfriend. That’s my definition of it anyways. I know some men out there that just like the chase, and when the person they were chasing finally agrees to going out with them, they become ghosts. Yep! Puff! Gone with the wind. They become unavailable, like they weren’t the ones sweet talking you, and buying you all these nice things just a week ago. Because that’s how fast they can get over you. My question is, but why? And you might ask yourself, did I suddenly become unattractive, did I do something wrong, did I, did I, did I. You need to understand that in that situation, it really has nothing to do with you, except for the fact that you said yes to them.

I remember thinking to myself when my boyfriend at the time became unavailable, “what’s wrong with him.” I did not think it had anything to do with me, and looking back at it, I am happy I had that mindset. The signs might not be so obvious, but I think one of the major signs of being with someone that was only there for the chase, is the speed in which they become unavailable. In a normal relationship, before it fizzles off, these things are gradual, you stop calling five times a day, and reduce it to once a day, because, that’s still okay, your words become less descriptive and things like that. But with the chase, it's like, don’t call me again, I'm busy. In my relationship, I was quick to end it, because, honestly, I didn’t have time for that. I thought I needed to be treated better than that, and I didn’t appreciate it. I didn’t want to waste my time at all on him, onto the next. But being in that relationship made me wonder for a long time why? Because I genuinely liked this person, and was sad it ended that way. I managed to come up with a few theories as to why, you may or may not agree with me.

The Excitement

There is something quite thrilling about wanting something that is initially perceived as unattainable. It's like an adrenaline rush when you're doing something scary, maybe not as much, but similar. You would get excited trying new things each time, to see what the person your chasing might like or yield to. Let me try this, would she notice this, what would she think if I did this; I know I'll get excited.

A Bet

Oooouu! Now this one is a No, no one wants to know they were just a bet. It's disrespectful, embarrassing, and just not a cute thing to do to anyone. But of course, if you already won the bet, that you can get the girl in X amount of time, why stay, right? Cold hearted much?

No Goal

This is just as simple, as your initial goal was to get the girl–you got her–that’s it. No more effort needed. You don’t set new goals for the relationship so you just leave it at that.

To prove to yourself, that you still got it.

That’s just what it is.

I might be speaking in the context where men are the main culprits of this, that’s what I think, but of course what's good enough for the gander is good for the goose. So, I'm sure there are women out there chasing and disappearing.