The Ghost and the Single Woman

My twenties were full of everything. Getting my feet wet with new experiences, new places, new people, you name it, the world was my oyster. My thirties I went full speed into exploring all that life had to offer, especially in the dating scene. With a little more experience and knowledge under my belt in my 30s, I took the bull by both horns with no fear. I was educated, confident, attractive, and full of sexual desire. I had enough amazing dates to write a best selling romance novel.

When 35 rolled around, I heard my clock tick and decided to marry the wrong guy; not once but twice. Two kids and twenty years later, I'm suddenly thrust into singlehood. What? wait! Being single in my fifties don't go together and is not a good match! How did I get here? I'm supposed to be planning my retirement with the love of my life! Surely this has to be a dream, some other person, certainly not me! I'm a successful career woman, attractive, passionate, kind, an amazing cook, the whole nine yards.

Ok, let me see what all these internet dating sites are all about. Hmmm, my inbox is full; there's a lot of men here, but they all look run down and beat up. Wow these are my choices? Men posting 20 and 30-year-old pics or with sunglasses, bald heads, baseball caps, and holding up fish? Oh, God, this must be a nightmare. Tell me this isn't so. Pinch me, wake me up, get me outta here! Ok, what the heck, let me sift through these God awful profiles; maybe I need to dig a little deeper.

Ok, this one seems ok; let me respond. So we dabble in small talk and decide to chat via cell. Great conversations for a week or so. Now its time to meet. What's next? That annoying buzzer sound that rings when you get the wrong answer. We never make it that far. All the, "Oh, you're so beautiful. Oh, I'd love to meet you," turns into a big nothing. They turned into big ghosts! This happens over and over and, sadly, over again! What's with these guys today? It's not just me. I hear this sad story from several of my girlfriends. There has got to be a better way. I'm a hopeless romantic and I'm afraid if I don't find love soon, I'll wither away and die. I don't know how I'll find him, but this just can't be my life right now. Any suggestions? I'm all ears cuz that's about all I have left. My hope is fading fast like a ghost....