The Great Things About Having No Friends and Being Single

Everyone seems to be getting people down when they say they have no social life, or they’re single, and I wanted to make this article, especially for my fellow females about why being single and having no friends in real life is the best thing ever. It’s not something to be ashamed of, and it’s definitely not something to poke fun at others for. There are many pros to having absolutely no friends whatsoever, and no other half. This article will be split into two parts: five reasons why having no friends is great, and five reasons why being single is great. So don’t always beat people up for it, they’re doing it for much different reasons you are.

Now, I do want to say that your lifestyle is your choice, but because people are talking about loneliness like it’s a bad thing, I wanted to show you my own lifestyle as an example as to why it’s not bad at all! I am a person who is incredibly alone—I have zero friends, and I’m completely single, and have always been that way. I don’t go out with anybody, and really, I just don’t go out at all. But, again—that’s not a bad thing. If I’ve been pushed into this lifestyle space, I just gotta make the most of it, and stop finding negatives. There’s a lot of positivity there too, and much more than you can probably think of. Here I am to pump some positivity into this.

So here’s an article for people like me. People who were once really upset that nobody wanted to be friends with them because they were different, the ones that were forgotten from the group they used to go to school with, the ones that would rather stay at home than go anywhere at all, and most of all, the ones who make the most out of being by themselves. This is to support us.

Part One: Five Great Things About Having No Friends

The amazing things include...

Having No Commitments

The best thing about having no friends is that you have no commitments to anyone but yourself. You do you on the everyday, and you never have to give a crap about anyone else’s calendar, or feelings, or whether they’re feeling down. You don’t make phone calls, don’t have to spend money going anywhere with them. You get to do what the hell you like, and that’s the best thing about it. You always have time for yourself, and time to do what you want to do. If you want to stay at home, and watch a film, but your best friend wants to go somewhere, you don’t want to let them down, do you? Remove the best friend, stay at home, watch your damn film, and feel good!

You Don't Have to Make Conversation

I’ve seen this problem online. People with friends who have introduced them to other people, and, well now what? None of that awkward conversation, or that stuff of being introduced to people you really couldn’t give a shit about is even remotely possible when you live friend-free. You concentrate on yourself, you give yourself time, you don’t need to meet random people whom you have nothing in common with. This is because if you don’t want to meet them, this is going to upset your friend—but if you remove the friend then neither of you are put in that situation, nor do you have to give a crap about someone else’s feelings towards it.

Saving Your Money for You

Birthdays, Christmas, Easter, Hanukkah, Diwali, Chinese New Year etc. there’s always a reason to either buy presents, or go out and celebrate. If you, however, would rather be spending time with your family, or even spending time by yourself doing some self-care for the holiday season, then that is going to upset the other people involved. Here’s a great way to stop that; cut out the other people involved! Then you save your money by not going out or buying presents, AND you get to do what the hell you like anyways. Plus, then you have more money to save on something you want to buy yourself—maybe something special like a hat, or some make-up. For example: I got a set of lipsticks in a sale online recently; I wouldn’t have been able to buy them if I was obligated to go to town with someone else, because I would’ve spent the money.

No Personal Stuff

I love this one the most! There’s no personal conversation. Sometimes, when someone is friends with someone else for a long time, they expect there to be some very personal conversation—as if one person should know everything about the other person and vice versa. I say no. You know about me only what I choose to tell you, and that’s my decision not yours. You have no obligation to tell anyone about yourself, and, if you feel like it’s getting too hot to handle, and they’re pushy—tell them to get lost, and cut them out. If you however, have no friends in the first place, you don’t even have to deal with this, and there is no headache. It is absolute bliss.

You Don't Have to Remember Anything

A simple one really, but you don’t have to remember dates you’ve set up with other people, and most importantly, you don’t have to remember birthdays and stuff. When you’ve known someone for that long, you are forced to remember everyone’s birthday from the person themselves to their pet dog. If you don’t have any friends, you don’t have to do this, and it’s a total load off your mind, trust me. The fact that ever since Primary School, I have never needed to learn anyone’s birthday but my family’s (and Bob Dylan’s) is possibly the best thing ever. It’s calming for the brain.

So that’s five great things about having no friends in real life. Now, here’s part two where we’re going to look at the five reasons we can stay completely single, and love our lives amazingly. Trust me, if you haven’t tried it—well, as I’ve been single all my life, I can tell you that you are missing out!

Part 2: Five Great Things About Being Single

There are far more than five reasons for this, but I didn't want to make it too long!

You Don't Have to Share Anything.

Think about it. You don’t have to share your bed, your money, your life, your house, your personal space, your food, your alone time, your anything with anyone! It’s a great feeling having it all to yourself, and then looking over at other people who have to share everything with some other person. Not sharing your stuff, especially your personal space—is the most calming thing in the world, because you do you whenever you feel like, and you don’t have to worry about anything else. If you want to share it with the "special someone" then there's most likely something wrong with you. I'm keeping my stuff for myself; it belongs to nobody but me thanks.

You Don’t Have to Do Anything For Anyone Else.

Building on from the not sharing point, you also don’t have to worry about what anyone else will think if you do you. I see this constantly online when people are always worried about what their other half would say if they do something, and I honestly don’t think that, even if I was in a relationship, I could honestly give a crap. If you’re in that kind of relationship, then leave. But the best part about being single in this sense is that there’s nobody around telling you what you can and can’t do—you’re by yourself, and you do what you like. Do you want to sit around watching Netflix for eight hours on a Sunday, but the man-child wants to go out to the bar with you? Do you want to watch eight hours of Netflix on Sunday, but your high-maintenance woman is complaining “you never take me anywhere!” when you guys literally went out the other day? Well, they’re your problem, honey. As for me, I think I’ll sit around watching Netflix for eight hours, because I damn well want to.

There’s No Maintenance Involved

Some men and women are very high maintenance. Some men act like five-year olds, and some women can’t get their heads out of their ass long enough. But, if you’re not in a relationship then you don’t need to maintain or teach this person. You don’t need to “pay for her manicure,” “make him his food because he can’t cook,” “give her time for her feelings,” “reward him for washing himself.” It sounds like the most exhausting thing in the world just thinking about it. How about you do this instead: reward yourself with presents, because there’s nobody else to maintain but you! That sounds like a much better idea. But to be honest, when it comes to maintenance, I think men have it worse, because she’ll just take your money when she leaves you too.

No Chance of a Domestic Situation

Well, that escalated rather quickly.

It is very well-known that women are subjected to daily abuses from their lovers, and, well, if you don’t have a lover then your chance of having this domestic situation rapidly reduces to say zero percent. If you don’t have a man, there’s no chance he’ll verbally abuse you, hit you, mock you, berate you, have an affair, take control of your finances, rape you, assault you, or even, in some heavy cases, murder you. I don’t know if you know this, but the rate for that shit is very high, and I’m sorry, I don’t have the time or the energy to deal with a man who has mommy issues. If you’re over 25, and you’re a man, then get a grip or don’t come near us. The best thing about this is that if you don’t have to drag a man around, then you don’t have to worry at all about this situation happening. Therefore, you are spared!

As for men, you don’t get the “he’s not earning enough” mental abuse that she’ll undoubtedly give you every day, because every woman these days seems to want a successful husband or boyfriend that is better than other husbands and boyfriends. She’ll probably leave you if you aren’t, and she’ll probably give you shit about not paying the bills, not paying for her, not paying for this, that, and things you don’t even own. She’ll check your phone every now and again because she’s paranoid, and if you’re experiencing this mental abuse then tell her where the door is. Best part about being single, you reduce this chance to zero percent of it ever happening.

You Don’t Have to Explain Anything

You don’t have to explain: what you’re doing, where you’re going, who you’re going with, why you’re going, when you’ll be back, what time you’re going, who else is going to be there, whether you’ll buy anything with your own damn money, if there will be alcohol in this location, whether you need a lift back etc. Think about doing that every single time you go anywhere, ladies. It sounds exhausting doesn’t it? Well, if you cut him out of the situation entirely then there’s nobody to ask you these stupid questions. It’s well known that men are incredibly paranoid about their position in a lady’s life, and so, if there is no man who is paranoid, you don’t have to maintain this, and can go on your merry way. The only people I answer to is my parents, and that’s going to be that.

As for men, you don’t have to explain why there’s females at some work party you’re going to because apparently you’re not supposed to be in another environment with other females involved. You can’t be friends with other females, because it puts her in the position that you’ll probably cheat on her. The best part about this is, if there is no “her” involved then you don’t have to explain shit about why there’s a female or two at the work party because they damn well work there too. No explaining where you’re going with her, why you have a female friend, what time you’ll be back, whether you’re going to be drinking there or things like “but what about me?” If there is no partner, there is no problem, that’s all I’m saying.

Conclusion

Again, I’m not trying to tell you how to live your life, and you have no reason to listen to me. But I think there’s a lot of negativity surrounding being single and staying single, and having no friends at all at the same time. But, there’s so many great things that when I do come to thinking about it if I ever get upset—I automatically feel better, because of all the exhaustion I’d have otherwise. Oh come on, it takes me 40 minutes to do my make-up, do you really think I’d leave the house unless I’d absolutely have to? Absolutely not. Remember, you have no obligation to do anything for anyone, no matter whether you are a man or a woman—there’s nothing you owe to anybody. If you don’t want to do something, and someone else does and they’re pestering you—cut them off. It’s that simple. You come first, not me, not your best friend, not your husband, not your girlfriend, not your work colleagues—you come first. If that means sacrificing relations with others then so be it. They can’t come and take the time that is rightfully yours. However, if you live like me, then worrying about these things is completely pointless. Just have a think about how much you can do what you feel like when there are no other parties involved. You’ll then see that we may be all alone, but we definitely aren’t hating ourselves for it. It’s just too much fun.