The Mindset of Cheating

So this is something that has been on my mind for a while now. The reason why is because I knew somebody who had cheated on her husband with two different men. When she told me, I was blown away by it, and I asked her, "why are you cheating on him?"

The only thing she could say was because she wasn't happy and also she having fun with these men. That she hasn't had any form of pleasure from her husband in the past six months. Now I can understand her problem, you know where you want to have some fun time with your significant other, but is cheating the way to go? When you know it can hurt the person you are cheating on.

Now we do live in a generation where some couples don't mind if their significant other goes out and has some pleasure with other people who are not them. The thing is when you know the person you are with will not like the fact of you cheating on him or her. The question comes up again: why cheat on them? Because that is something that can change your whole relationship if they ever find out, or something else happens.

Would you be OK with them cheating on you?

This is where I sat down with my friend and asked her one simple question to get her to think about what is going on right now with her situation. I asked, "Would you be OK if he found out that you were cheating on him, and he thought that it would be OK for him to cheat on you?"

She looked at me with a look, that she was confused. I knew I had her thinking about the whole thing now. She tells me, "Well no, to me that is not OK if he cheats on me." That is when I started to think about, well, how is it OK for you cheat, but it is not OK for him to cheat. Does not really make sense at all to me.

Now you can tell me more horrible things about him or her, which lead you to start cheating on him or her. It would make me believe, OK I can see what would push you away into someone else's arms. Thing is, if you come to me and you are cheating on him because you are not happy with the pleasure, well that is not a good reason to cheat if you know that the person would not like you cheating on him or her. You guys need to work through it to be honest.

She assumed that maybe he will never find out (he did), and that she could continue what she was doing with these men. Of course it led her to start wondering more about who she really cares for. You have a man at home who loves you, but doesn't give you enough pleasure. You have men who give you all the pleasure you want, but don't truly love you. Who do you choose, because you can't have both. I mean you can if your husband is okay with you having both. Let's just say your husband is not OK with you having both love from him and pleasure from someone else. Well what do you do?

Like I said when they find out you have been cheating on them, it is going to change the relationship. Then they could want to get back at you and cheat on you with someone else. Thing is you really have the right to be mad and at the same time you don't, because you started cheating on them first. Now yes, two wrongs don't make a right is the usual saying here, but you pushed him or her to cheat on you. Now you are going to feel all the bad things they felt when you did it to them.

That is why I asked the question in the beginning of this post, how is it OK for you to cheat on them, but it is not OK for them to cheat on you. That is something I've really been trying to break down for a very long time now. People's mindset on cheating is really something crazy, but year by year it is something that keeps on happening for different reasons.