The Nerdy Prince
How I Fell in Love with a Gamer
My boyfriend is a gamer nerd.I am not.
He is into Star Wars. I would rather read a Jane Austen novel.
He can sit up all hours of the night and talk to random people from all over the world via headset. I would rather get my beauty rest.
He enjoys Marvel and DC comic films. I prefer Robin Wiliams films.
He doesn't mind clutter here and there.I'm Monica Geller.
Despite our differences, we make a good couple. He's funny, doting, responsible, and loving. He doesn't ignore me when he plays a game; he checks in with me as much as he can and even tells me about what kind of game he's playing, and I don't mind listening. I even make a point to ask now and then because I, in fact, find some of his games to be interesting. Sometimes he'll bring me to a movie and, though I don't usually have a burning desire to see the one he's selected for the evening, I found Marvel Avengers Infinity Wars as well as Black Panther quite entertaining, and I would probably watch it again.
When we first met, I had my reservations in general because I had been in some shitty relationships with men who wouldn't know how to treat a woman if it smacked them in the face with a hardcover manual. Some were emotionally inept, immature, or just assholes. They weren't good enough for me and I knew it, but I had such low self-esteem at the time, I would have dated anyone... well... almost anyone. But then, shortly after moving to a new city, everything began to change, My confidence grew and then I met him, and I've never once had a second thought.
My boyfriend and I definitely have some different interests. But that's barely the tip of the iceberg of our relationship. I don't have to share in his bromance with a keyboard or geek out over his new lightsaber... (oh yes, it came in the mail just the other day). He doesn't have to be a bookworm like myself or drink tea as I do or even try to dissect a glass of wine at a tasting. We connect on different levels—for example, our love of food and cooking; we also enjoy the outdoors and hiking. We both have similar outlooks on life and we both know what kind of parents we'd want to be someday.
When I tell people my boyfriend is a gamer, I either get an upbeat "Oh, that's cool" or an "ooh—" (pregnant pause with a sideways look), "—and you're OK with that?"
[Insert annoyed face here]
The truth is that, yes, we have our differences, but that doesn't stop us from loving—loving our hobbies or loving each other, and honestly, I wouldn't have it any other way. I find that having differences can strengthen a relationship and give one a vantage point that they never thought of, or even thought possible. I see things a little differently since meeting Joshua. I find myself thinking more realistically, my head not as far into the clouds as it once was with unrealistic ambitions such as living in the city that never sleeps and not having a large bank account to do so.
But, being here, on the couch, listening to him converse with his fellow gamers as I type, periodically sipping some merlot as evening traffic whizzes by and the crickets begin to chirp, I feel something I'm not sure I would have felt in a bigger city:
Happy.
About the Creator
Morganne Thayer
We were given LIFE to LIVE it so what are you waiting for?
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