The Person I'd Trust My Life With Is...

The person I would trust with my life is someone who would trust me with his.

Trust is a very sensitive matter. It is something intangible yet fragile. It is something that requires strength yet is often given to feeble hands. Its gentleness can often be a reason for someone to put his defenses down, because how can something so gentle and fragile ever cause you harm? But things do not always work the way we think they should.

Trust is a mutual affair. It is built with time and effort to understand the wholeness of another person. Loving someone does not always mean you trust him completely. There is truth in the song, “maybe sometimes love’s just ain't enough.” In a romantic relationship, for instance, one may profess his love to someone and yet remain suspicious of his partner’s activities. One may say, “If I am not jealous that means I do not truly love you.” They make love a justification of their lack of trust. We cannot simply say what they feel is not true love because we are not standing on their shoes. However, we can say for sure that trust does not exist in this kind of relationship. This kind of love then can be suffocating and tiring. Trust fails when there is lack of understanding of how the other person feels. Consequently, love fails when there is no trust.

As trust is mutual, I would entrust my heart and all of my being to someone who trusts me as well. I would entrust my life to someone who understands me with all of my intricacy.

The person I would trust my life with is my husband, not just because he is the man I married but because he is the person who trusts me the most. In our fourteen years of being together, never did he falter in his trust. I did at certain points question his fidelity, but he never did. Although I was the jealous type of girlfriend, he would always tell me, “I trust you.” And for all its worth, he always proved it to me. Because of his unfailing trust, I learned that it is possible to trust someone completely. I was ashamed of my actions, but that taught me how to be a trusting person. In my triumphant moments he was there to cheer for me, and in my failures he was always the first to say, “It’s okay. I believe you can do it next time.” He says this even when I fail so many times until I get back on my feet once more. I trust him because he believes in me. This kid of trust is something that we built for years with tears and sacrifices.

Trust is like a sturdy building. It has to have a good foundation to last. It has to have the right materials to stand the tests of time. You have to build it with careful hands.

I know all of this might sound too good to be true to some, especially those who have once trusted and failed. But don't be afraid to trust again. The only way you can find out if you can trust someone is to trust them. Have courage to trust one more time. Most importantly, TRUST YOURSELF. You cannot give what you do not have. As the saying goes, “Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.” Believe that you are capable of trusting again. Believe that you are worthy to be loved. Believe that there is someone out there who can trust you the way you trust yourself. Life is too short to live in doubt.