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The Reason Why You Hate Me Being Black

Dear me, a black girl...

By Nair RodriguesPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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Credit: Black Beauty (Speed Paint) by Selenada http://selenada.deviantart.

From the beginning of dawn we were picked on, talked about, de-valued, hated, treated un-fairly...the list most definitely goes on. However, it didn't stop us. In fact, it made others think of different ways to tear us down and also apart.

As a younger black girl, I didn't have the confidence to tell people to stop calling me 'pretty for a black girl' or ugly because I had bigger lips, fat because I was thicker than the rest of the class or dumb because I couldn't speak English properly (My first language is Portuguese). I went to a predominantly white primary school and a high school and it was only after I had entered college that I realised that I was being mistreated because of the colour of my skin. Here in the UK, racism isn't really noticed, in fact it is often disguised as stereotyping. In high school, I was nicknamed the 'sassy girl' and often the students would make ghetto, stereotypical remarks or gestures, such as patting their head as a copy of how we pat our weaves and the funny thing is it wasn't just the white folks.

Therefore, I learned that I couldn't continue to accept the fact that I was being mistreated in such a way and that is why I started owning me. So here are some of the reasons why you hate me being black:

  • You hate me being black because I found my confidence.

Yeah, I know some may say 'but everyone has found their confidence at some point'. Blah...blah...blah. Oh no b! I'm about to school you...so take a seat, in fact take several, because confidence isn't about looking in the mirror and saying I look good, it's about feeling good about yourself all the time from the inside. I'm willing to be a champion, but not because people say 'you can do it.' No, it's about me saying 'I can do it' and to be honest, I've learnt that even if there are people there to support you and comfort you in your time of need, it won't help you move forward. You will still be stuck in the same place because there is so little that everyone else can do for you. You need to be your own motivator because it is not all the time that people are gonna have time for you.

  • Secondly, you hate me being black because I can fight better than you.

Sometimes things may come naturally to a black girl and that's because we are the greatest. I think I may have hit a nerve, but I honestly do not care. It's true. However, I'm not singling out just the black girls, because there are people that can be great too, just trust and believe. But right now, I'm not talking about others. Black girls have a caring nature and, although at times, it doesn't show and it seems like we are ignorant, but actually we care a lot. So that's why we do it better. We show our care through the littlest things and sometimes that goes unnoticed, but we don't stop because we want to be better. We fight for what we want and we don't let nobody take away what is rightfully ours either. So if you want to step in our way, you can, but you won't succeed. Remember, I warned you.

  • Finally, you hate me being black because I won't let you touch my hair. (This is my crown...move!)

Like why do you want to touch my hair so bad? Did they not teach you to keep your hands and legs to yourself? And then you have the nerve to say sorry after YOU dared to put your hands on me. In the words of my African mother, sorry for yourself. I simply don't understand why people are so curious to touch black people's hair. Am I a science experiment for you to be pulling my hair and asking how long it is? Nah, move...bye! I've learned that people personally hate being stood up to. When I tell them to stop touching my hair, they get defensive like, 'alright chill out mate.' First of all, I'm not your mate, secondly, touch my hair again and see if I don't backhand you to China. Try me. Don't be afraid to stand up for the thing you care about, even if it is your hair.

Eventually, you will find a lot of reasons why you hate me being black and for me these are the top 3. You can continue to hate but #blackgirlmagic will still be here, whether you like it or not.

Ciao xx

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Nair Rodrigues

I don't know me well enough to tell you about myself...

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