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The Rebound

Can a rebound turn into something beautiful, or was it not a rebound to begin with?

By Chimdi ChimePublished 5 years ago 3 min read
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Do you just get out of a relationship and decide to focus on yourself, and enjoy being single, or do you find someone else to fill the space, because you don't do single?

Either way, we all have our different ways of coping with a break-up, and it can be different with each break-up we experience. If you do find someone else just to fill the space, that’s a “rebound.” A rebound is a person that you generally don’t care about, but it's a good enough distraction for you to get over your last relationship. Most people may know right away that they are seeing someone as a rebound; that that was their sole purpose in the first place. Others may not necessarily know, this is where good friends come in handy, they’ll let you know, Dude! Girl! You're just using them as a rebound. Because you may just think, “oh, they are fun, I like hanging out with them,” but you don’t really care enough to go out of your way for them. In some cases, the rebound person is a friend, someone all your friends know, that likes you very much, but you ain’t just giving them face. It could also be someone who is not your friend, but has been chasing you for a while. Now this person can be easier for you, if you're solely looking for a rebound, because you don’t care, so you don’t want to go out of your way to find one. (PS. I am not giving out ways to find a rebound, 🙂)

I was watching a video recently where, the person in the video said they were not talking to anyone after they just newly got out of a relationship, because they don’t do rebounds. That got me thinking, do you only talk to someone after a relationship just because you want them as a rebound. What if you are just talking to them and “vibing” good, they don’t have to be a rebound. Where is it a rule that you can’t start dating someone right after a relationship, or should I say talking to someone (the process leading up to dating), tell me I’ll wait. Some people may see it as a rebound but, it necessarily isn’t. I do think that if it’s not your intention to talk to someone as a rebound, you can really make an honest relationship out of it. It may have started with you just having someone to talk to, but with time, the feelings become undeniable. I say that’s not a rebound, that is just you having a heart that has so much love to give, and that can heal pretty quickly. I started talking to someone, right after a relationship, I thought nothing of it, I genuinely liked their company, I did want to be single, and enjoy the single life though, but plans changed, because fighting my feelings was such a futile effort; I just couldn’t do it.

If you do however talk to someone as a rebound, the chances of it becoming an honest relationship, may be slim to none, but what do I really know, like really, what do I know. Life is funny, things can happen. I say if they were a rebound, if you begin to have deeper feelings for them, that you didn’t have before, go for it, life is too short. It doesn’t matter where you started it, only matters where you're going. And also communicate that stuff, because being the rebound, is not something anyone really wants, let them know where you were, and where you are if you want to make it real. If you want to end it though, ouuu! Don’t come to me–I'm not your girl.

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Chimdi Chime

I am a mind wanderer who wants to turn my mind travels into a reality. I am a strong woman with lot's to learn. I love to express myself in so many different ways, from my experiences and what I have learned, so I hope you love my stories.

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