The Shocking Truth That Co-Dependency Stems from Emotional Abuse

Did you ever think a person could be so heartless and evil and yet you would fall for them?

Codependency is a surefire way to generally get stuck in a narcissist's web. By being a good, loyal person it's easy to get blindsided and trapped in their web of strategic yet deceitful tactics.

Truthfully, anyone can fall victim to them.

Codependency has also been known as “relationship addiction” since people who are codependent often maintain or form relationships that are one-sided and are emotionally detrimental and/or abusive.

They're so good at what they do because they are master manipulators.

This is apparent but most times you don't even know it until it happens to you and you're actually in the situation. But then it's too late.

They are attracted to loyal people who are givers because they know that you will put in 110 percent and work double time to not give up on them.

When we become codependent on another human being, it sets us up to be in a position to not be able to function without them.

Which is the very reason you cling onto them, even when they're pushing you away and showing you signs that they are abusive emotionally, physically, or mentally.

20 Warning Signs of Emotional Abuse

Signs of Emotional Abuse Leading to Low Self Value

When we put low value on ourselves, we jeopardize the state of our happiness as a result.

Here are a few ways to tell if you have placed your value lower than it should be.

• You find it hard to say no to others.
• You think spending money on yourself or shopping sprees determines that you are high in confidence.
• In relationships, you allow them to walk all over you.
• If you allow them to keep you a secret.
• You've never been to their house after dating over 12 months and talks of having a family, marriage, etc.
• The relationship is only always on their terms.
• It's been over a year and you've never met any family or friends.
• They use amazing sex to bait you and if you agree it's as if suddenly everything that transpired didn't happen or doesn't exist.
• If you keep making excuses for their ill-treatment towards you to friends or family.
• You find yourself easily accepting them back with open arms after they've gone ghost for weeks or months.
• You'd rather be non-confrontational and yet sweep things under the rug.
• You wait around for days for them to call and when they do you drop everything and respond, it's as if you spoke yesterday.

How to Realize You've Been Deceived

In an unhealthy relationship, there is a level of control that will outweigh any amount of love that you think exists.

By lowering your standards or not having any in place you already allow them the opportunity to play with your mind on a level that you could of never even fathomed.

If they are successful, they work to change your whole perception and see things from their view even if you don't necessarily agree.

They program it into your mind to believe that you just can not go on without them... This makes you incapable of letting them go and meeting someone who is right for you

They manipulate and isolate you from your friends and family.

It can be something as simple as you saying good morning or asking for some sort of gesture of affection to your significant other and if they are in a mood that day, it will trigger something in them and they will make their anger visible shortly because they are so easily angered by the pettiest little things.

There is a lot more that goes into this act and there is also a bigger reason for all of their concocted drama.

This scene they've played out generally occurs because they get a kick out of blowing things out of proportion only to cause a scene to solidify their exit.

So basically their whole little Oscar-worthy performance was just a decoy (an exit strategy) to deceive you and go ghost for a few days, weeks, or months while they entertain another victim.

When they re-enter the scene (they alert your family, friends email or phone via call or text) they come back with reasons as to why they left by blaming it all on you.

He/she will usually say something like, "You got me upset and I needed to clear my head or time alone was necessary to figure out why you don't love me."

Don't fall for their manipulation.

No matter how many times they apologize and tell you how much they've changed, they honestly don't mean a single word. Even if you ask them how, they'll just make up something that they know you want to hear. So don't even do ask.

It's all a cover-up!

But most often the significant other is in shock that they are being blamed and instead of seeing him as the deranged loose cannon that he/she is, their disappearance is excused and warranted and acts like nothing happened and all is well again only to be done again.

This kind of childish mind game is consistently repeated throughout the relationship.

Which only proves how messed up their victims become and shows that the self-worth level is far below average. Anyone who has been susceptible to this abuse lacks the confidence to walk away or stand up for themselves.

We make it 100 times harder when we train our mind to think that things are hard to quit which makes it a hard task to complete.

Let's be clear, when it comes to making a choice to leave any relationship it isn't so easy, but it is completely necessary if you've been in a relationship with someone who has been willfully subjecting you to the effects of abuse only a narcissist knows how to inflict.

Remember, we end up with what we settle for, so never settle for anything less than you deserve!