The Three Stages of Love, Lust, and Happiness...

Relationships are blind... We all want happiness, love, and to want and be wanted... BUT not all of us want it in the same way. Going into a new relationship is scary! Exciting! Also let's be honest the sex isn't always too bad either! I like to think of a good relationship as having three stages or even phases if you will. Stage one there is the puppy dog stage, and this is the new relationship all over can't keep your hands to yourself phase. Then there is stage two. Stage two is the, okay we've met the family we are getting serious and we've been together for a hot minute now. Then finally there is a stage three... Now three is the tricky one, it's the most committed and most important. Stage three is when forever comes in, whether it's marriage or just deciding marriage isn't for you but you are still wanting to commit to this person for life.

Stage one is always fun. Everything is new and everything is oh so exciting. This is also a time to really see how a person is and in this stage you can also tell if this person is really into you or just wants to, well, get in you. If 80-100% of the time you only see the person is when they are feeling frisky or bored then abort! Get the hell up out of there babe! Even in the beginning it still shouldn't be all about the sex. I know the beginning is when most of the sex is had, but if they aren't calling you and randomly checking I'm on your or spending time with you then it probably won't be much more then a fun chapter of your past. If you get random sweet messages and small acts of kindness like cute dates, calls, or flowers and they really take the time to get to know you then maybe they are stage number two worthy.

Stage two is the make or break stage. This is when you introduce one another to the most important people in your life (family), and if you are, then your now bf/gf must be pretty important to you by now as well. Stage two is where the lust doesn't go away but you can control it better and you are steady. You might even have your first fight and how you handle it will define how your relationship will be or end. If there is constant chaos and arguing well then you might not make it to the final stage. If you have arguments or disagreements and work them out as a team and build one another up rather then tear each other down, well then that's a relationship that will last.

The third and final stage is the forever stage. It's when you've completely given yourself to your spouse and really committed 100%. Marriage is most likely to happen but if marriage isn't your thing and you don't believe in a signature on a paper then this time simply LOVE will get you through.

Not everyone gets a happy ending. Some people have to try and fail many times before finding their perfect match. Hell I'm still searching for mine. All I can say is don't give up. Take the heart breaks and shitty people as lessons and let them build you and teach you and make you grow as a person. If it's great, good but if you have doubts don't be afraid to walk away... Hold on to the great but love yourself and walk away from the bad because there is greatness out there waiting for you.