The Trick

It was early October 2017 and I had come home from work and there was a woman in my home. My ex roomates brought her back here and they were drinking beer. These dudes were treating her like crap and I overheard that she wanted to settle down and raise a family.

I took her aside and rubbed her shoulders and made her feel comfortable and we talked for hours which felt like minutes. It's 3am, we're drunk, and we end up in the bedroom hooking up. Next thing you know she says she's having symptoms of being pregnant.

A month later I took her into the pregnancy clinic and she claims it was positive so I took her in to see my doctor. She got a call and claimed that it was affirmative and that she was pregnant. It was all happening too fast for my liking but I accepted it for what it was and even bought her a ring.

One day we started fighting so we took some time apart and I find her sending nude photos to her ex and asking to get back with him. I confronted her about it and she denied it but I know what was going on. I know her, well at least I thought I did. Her sisters and even her mother warned me about her. I didn't want to believe anyone because I like to see the good in everyone and hope that people will change for the better.

While we were apart I was having some health issues so I went in for some tests and find out from her file that she's not pregnant. It was either all a lie or she believed she was pregnant. I told her that I didn't want her back because I want a stable woman to settle down and raise a family with. Than I find out from her mother that she covers up one lie with another lie after another lie.

Her cousin and neighbor both said that she has her tubes tied and that she has cancer of the uterus. I'm an honest person so all I want is the same thing in return. Well I guess I'll just move on and take care of myself for now because I'm the only person who matters to myself. It obviously wasn't meant to be. I may have broken her heart but it's not what I wanted, the whole relationship was solely based on a lie.

Not only because she wasn't pregnant. She was negative all the time and chased all my friends away. I'm the kind of person who will say what I mean and I have no filter. Either love me or hate me, I don't care. Around her I couldn't be myself; it's like she took over my life and tried to drain the life out of me. But I'm too strong and won't put up with to much drama or bullshit for to long. The truth comes out in the end.

Honesty builds trust and without trust there is no relationship in my books. Therefore it just wasn't meant to be and I didn't feel like there was a point in trying to make it work once the trust was broken.

She had trust issues and I understand why. After knowing all she's been through in her life I figured I can show her what love is by being patient and hoping things would get better.

Nothing got better and I realized that I've spent many years working on my self so that I could have a healthy relationship.

My heart is in the right place and obviously hers wasn't so how could I possibly make things work? I'm only human and I know that there's no such thing as a perfect relationship. I know it takes two to make it work so if one person isn't putting in an equal effort what's the point of continuing.

I've seen so many families fall apart and become separated from one another. I know that kids learn from their parents and if there's yelling and hate the kids can grow up to attracting like minded peers and lovers. Taking my time now because I now know I'm better off alone than to be in a relationship that isn't meant to be.